Imajerk17 Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 (edited) I went on 3 dates total from the time I was 19 to 29. I didn't date 3 girls, I went on 3 dates. It wasn't that I was massively socially deficient so much as I was a bit shy, AND I was in a technical field. So there just weren't many girls for me to date in my classes and later on, work. And a decade later in my late 30's it's a different story. I've had a few relationships since then. But right now I am meeting and getting physical with women like crazy. I haven't met "the one" yet, but I am having fun in the meanwhile. At this point I just don't think I would be able to settle. What turned it around for me? Putting myself out there. I did cold approaches like crazy. I went the PUA route for a while and actually got some benefit from it. I also got into self-improvement. I got into CrossFit. I made a point of making friends both male and female. (I want to stress though, that I did cold approaches in the meanwhile. Lots of cold approaches. You DON'T have to have a crew that you run with to date. In fact, I don't have a circle of friends. I have a few friends whom I hang out with now and then but that's really it.) Am I becoming a bad-ass? Maybe. I also made it a point to upgrade social skills, how to relate to other people. Some from self-help and PUA, some from modeling people I respect. And I got my finances in order. Instead of trying to get the 10, I am also trying to BE the 10. (I hate the 1--10 rating scale that people use, but I like that expression.) I had a lot of painful experiences in the meanwhile, but I made a point to learn as much as I could from each one. I also make a point to read about the experiences of the women on here, to see how women process things differently from the way that I do. So I can see what habits of mine are getting in the way of my connecting with someone great. Anyway, my point of this is that it is possible to get the dating life you want. You just have to put yourself out there. If nothing else you can start with some cold approaches today. Edited September 6, 2012 by Imajerk17 4
Silly_Girl Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 Being a person you'd want to date is VITAL. Lovin' yer work. Well done!! 1
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