lifehurts Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 Me and my Girlfriend have been dating over 3 months. Our love for each other was unbelievable I honestly thought nothing could break us. Then just over a week ago her ex added her on fb and started talking to her then she just sent me ended the relationship saying she hasn't completely got over her ex. And she's confused and doesn't know what to do. I don't know where I stand because one day before we broke up we had the most romantic day ever I could see the love for me in her eyes. I don't know what has happened and where I stand atm.
january2011 Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 Not with her, unfortunately. If a brief exchange with her ex can shatter what you'd built up together over the last three months, then she wasn't yours to begin with. Most likely she tried to self-medicate the pain of her previous breakup using your relationship. That is, you were the rebound. As painful as it is, I'd advise you to implement NC. Even if she came back to you, you could never be sure that she wouldn't receive another communication from her ex, get into another tailspin of confusion and dump you again. Best to move on and count yourself lucky that it was only three months and not a year or a decade.
Brian4 Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 Hey mate, I can tell you what you are feeling is absolutely normal. I myself am in a very similar situation, got blindsided by my girlfriend (had actually just bought an engagement ring too), and was told that she didn't love me anymore. Nothing in the world will make you feel smaller and less significant than going through this situation. What I can tell you is that you need to live yourself right now. Trust me, there's nothing worse than self loathing, and I promise you if you do t find a positive way to get your emotion/anger out. Go jogging, lift weights, kick a football around until your foot bruises. But whatever it is, DO NOT do it alone. Spend time with friends/family and set up a support system. You'll be amazed how many people come out of the woodwork to show support. I myself have had people who I haven't spoken to in ages phone me to show support and pick me up. Listen, I'm not going to tell you it is easy. It isn't. Were going through the worst thing that someone can go through: self doubt, emotional pain, and a feeling of being unloved. When you get down, write what you're feeling here. It'll definitely help. Chin up.
I'm nuts Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 Try looking on the bright side, it was only 3 months and she showed her true colours, wow! you are a lucky man, find someone with a real spine.
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