helenr Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 Hi! I desperately need some advice from you... I've been on and off with this guy for a year, never had a real relationship. it's complicated... i don't want a relationship with him, but would like to keep him as a lover/friend... well i guess i don't want to admit to myself that i developed feelings for him. and i think he never had big emotions for me. he was always stronger than me, less emotional. do i have to mention that the attraction between us was just crazy?!! after a year i left him because of some very stupid things he did, among others it was always his choice when to call or not. and he would be all crazy about me today and then not contacting me for 2 weeks. he said he likes me too much not to bond. and bonding was out the question, i was clear about that. and he did flirted (dated?) with other girls in the mean time. which i hated. after i left him he came back, after 6 months. and because not a day would pass that i wasn't thinking about him I took him back. he was all new this time, kind, full of attention, loving, he apologized... but then he didn't contact me for 2 weeks again and i freaked out. decided this is no good for me, that it will never be better, he won't change, he's an egocentric player, that he has no feelings for me, that i have to move on... i was pretty harsh, so he couldn't make a first step again and come back. i told him i got back with my ex again (a lie, just to keep him out) and that i dont want to see him again. he was ok with that, acted cool, like he doesn't care... didn't try to get me back at all. maybe i just gave him the excuse and he didn't want to be with me anymore anyway... 6 months have passed again... and i still miss him. should i contact him? i know this sounds crazy but.. i am crazy with him!
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