woodman Posted July 21, 2004 Posted July 21, 2004 Hello all,eight months ago we met and fell head over heels for each other,she hasa 3.5 year old and hes great,i work shift and live about a hour away.she works full time and we dont see each other alto,we fight about howi dont support her feelings and she thinks ive tried to manipulate her in certain ways,she can very introverted and thinks i p[out when things dont go my way,we have not seen each other in2 weeks,(talk on phone)says she is pressured,should i give her space and wait,i really care for them and want to change the behavior that makes her second guess,i think she will end this soon, thanks please reply
Art Posted July 21, 2004 Posted July 21, 2004 I dare say that most guys did the same mistake as you. They failed to support the feelings of their loved one. The thing is...when woman says that you've failed to support her feelings...it means that you might no listen to what (her feeling actually) she was trying to tell you. Most of the time, woman wants to have someone who listen to her and show that he cares for her without giving any advice or trying to tell her to stop or suppress her feelings. She can feel much better if you just listen to her quietly (but also have to show her that you really pay an attention). After that you can just give her a warm and loving hug and tell her how much you care for her and how much you want to see her being happy. Do not try to give any advice at first, unless she's asking for it. I think she felt that you tried to manipulate her because you might try to give her some advices on her problems (feelings) at the time that she didn't really need them. I think you better go and see her...have an open-up conversation and show her how much you really care for her and her boy. Don't try to push any suggestion or opinion to her at this point as she doesn't need it. I wish you all the best.
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