Mrlonelyone Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 I agree with everyone who says this means he's not over his ex. They were married and they have a child. That means, no matter what, their will be some level of involvement or contentedness there. Yes there will be some feelings there, what's different in this kind of situation is a realization that a relationship between them wouldn't work out. Just accept the following things. He is with you now He may never be as over his childs mother as he would be over any other ex.
Hawaii50 Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 WOW! A video tape of him raping his ex wife?! WTF!!! Don't even go to sleep around this dude! Jebus. 1
RiverRunning Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 What a blatant show of disrespect to the mother of his child. I understand she may have cheated on him, but doing something to humiliate her (no matter if she was drunk) is inexcusable. My exact thought would be, "So he's going to trash me/taking compromising pictures/etc. and show them to other people for his little kicks?" I'd even be concerned that he might try to dig up compromising dirt and blackmail you with it if things don't go as planned in the future. Dump him and dump him now. This stuff should NOT be happening so early in the relationship. It will get worse, OP.
SandRat Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 He broke his phone into pieces? I'd be very concerned that someone I'm dating has "souvenirs" of a past relationship and is stupid enough to share them with someone he is currently dating. I think your BF might not be the sharpest tool in the shed. Maybe he was secretly hoping you would be turned on by it and want a threesome. That was seriously my first thought This! He ain't too smart.
SJC2008 Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 You have been together a month and are calling him your bf, AND you "think it will last". Too much too soon young lady. Most importantly, people that do stupid crap when their drunk/can't contol themselves need to be avoided. Yeah we've all had are moments but when someones actions/demeanor change when their drunk that's a huge red flag. When I drink I just become more of me, more funny, talkative. I never get mad or rage or turn into some stunt man.
kae Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 honey.. he might be over her but he doesnt respect you.... and respect comes before love.xx
FitChick Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 Yet another example of why you should never allow nude photos or videos taken of yourself, unless you can hide your head and do it in a place not easily recognizable. 1
venusianx13 Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 This is scary. Not only did he divulge something very intimate/borderline skeevy to you, which is incredibly inappropriate and disrespectful, the fact that his mind even went there, drunk or not, is just alarming!! You're only a month in...people are still usually on their best behavior at this point. I really don't see him being drunk as an excuse, and besides, it is said that when one is has been drinking, deeper parts of them come through to the surface. Yes, it was very disrespectful, thoughtless, tactless, idiotic and immature to show you something so intimate, however, I'd be more than mad about this, I'd be frightened. Oh, and I'd never talk to him again. I learned something some time ago about men who divulged intimate details about their ex partners to me...they ALWAYS ended up being very disrespectful to me in the long run. Case in point: my son's father.
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