avon20 Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 Ideally your girlfriend is a keeper if you ask her to marry you and she does not say yes. You don't want her to say yes if you are going to ask her to marry you. Ideally you want her answer to your proposal to be in the form of a question such as "What took you so long?" I will never ask a woman to marry me unless I am getting a positive vibe that her answer will be "What took you so long?" or "It's about time". I am not satisfied with a yes answer. I want to know that she has been waiting a long time for me to ask her. Which is why I will date a woman for at least 5 years before asking her to marry me if I even want to marry her at all. I want to hear that kind of response come out of her mouth. If I as a man am wanting marriage before she does then there's something wrong with our relationship. She should be wanting marriage much sooner than I want it. If not then I will at least pretend that I am in no hurry to get married and just enjoy every moment of her company in the meantime. If she asks what took you so long then you should consider marrying her. Marriage is hard work enough as it is even if you are lucky enough to meet someone who complements you in every way. It is too painful to contemplate how much harder marriage would be to a woman who wasn't really enthusiastically anticipating my proposal.
Author avon20 Posted September 6, 2012 Author Posted September 6, 2012 Most women can tell within a few seconds of meeting a man whether he is a candidate for marriage or not. By the first few seconds she has already decided whether you are in or out. Most of my married friends tell me that they knew he was the one to marry as soon as she met him. They have been happily married the last 10-15 years. So for her to give the ideal answer to a marriage proposal like the one I shared above is a good sign that she has been waiting since day 1 for you to ask. That's ideally what we want. Let her wait 5 years!
Author avon20 Posted September 6, 2012 Author Posted September 6, 2012 (edited) That kind of response to a marriage proposal of "What took you so long?" is certainly much better than hearing her say "I am flattered but I need time to think about it". Obviously there's no hope if she says she has to think about it. That's when it is time to go into strict NC mode with her and move on. No need to even give a break up lecture because she already did it for you when she said she needs time to think. So in this case it would not be rude to cut contact without warning. Edited September 6, 2012 by avon20
Silly_Girl Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 I'd be gone and married to someone else by the time you'd decided I was worthy. Hey-ho. 4
KatZee Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 I'd be gone and married to someone else by the time you'd decided I was worthy. Hey-ho. Yeah seriously. Who's going to sit around waiting 5 years just because you have some hang up about what her answer is going to be? So if you dated someone 5 years and they said "yes" they'd be out the door. I'm really not so sure YOU ARE aware of the hard work it takes for marriage, if you'd out someone just for saying yes. 2
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