whackednomad Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 my bf and i were talking about having kids (just in general, not specifically about the two of us). he said it was too scary to have kids because they might have a 'condition' like mine. my disability is not genetic so it's not like he was asking me if they could have it.... honestly, i don't think he meant it to sound as bad as it did, but it caught me off guard. i yelled and got upset, but it was the generic 'i'm leaving" and then i calmed down quickly. i never called him names or cussed. it was just 'boo, hoo ... u hurt me.' now he dumped me because i upset him by getting upset. i shouldnt have reacted and i apologized...i tried to explain that by talking about disability and kids some deep emotions get tapped into. i listened to him and told him i forgave him. apparently though, he cant forgive me. was i totally and unforgivably wrong? given the subject matter, couldnt he cut me a little slack...(but maybe i'm better off without him) a friend says he probably met someone new and is just using this........... thanks for any opinions.
Calico Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 How long have you been together and how old are the two of you? I don't believe that this disagreement is really significant enough for him to permanently walk out. Couples fight, you talked about it, it should be fine. It may just be an excuse and he may have wanted out anyway, for other reasons, and that was the spring board that he used. Basically what your friend said. I'd wait a few days (I know, each day feels like a month) and see what happens. I'd not go running after him for now -- give him a little space. Not that I ever do that myself, but I have done a lot of damage by clinging, so I know that becoming needy really doesn't yield good results.
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