Ever Dated a Virgo Man?

[KatZee]

So true! I have kind of an intense line of work...I deal with crap all day... but I'm baffled by a boy! How does that happen?

 

Boys come from different planets, that's why.

 

Men on the other hand...

[Ruby Slippers]

I've heard the same! I actually do believe that he has tons to offer - but I think it would mean more to me if he came back on his own, rather than me always keeping the lines open. Virgo or not Virgo, I think a man will go after what he wants...if he wants it.

I totally agree - and there's no way I would have stuck with this Virgo if he hadn't been persistent in coming after me. He's assertive overall, but more passive than anyone I've been with in certain ways. For instance, he will offer up his time and let me plan anything I would like us to do with it, and go along happily for the most part.

 

The thing about us Virgo men, is that we are actually MUCH more emotional than you think (if other areas in the chart dictate). There's a world of passion, emotion and fire hidden in there somewhere dying to show itself. And the minute it's been shown, his guard is down, and he's yours. He will revert back to his usual cool self, but you'll know who he really is after that, and he will feel comfortable expressing his desires.

Very true. My Virgo has been opening up more and more, showing me his goofy side, getting comfortable with me - and it just keeps getting better. Now that he's opening up emotionally, he's becoming VERY talkative and telling all kinds of stories about himself, his formative years, how his values were shaped, and more. It's like he's finally found someone who cared enough to draw him out, and is just revealing himself happily and joyfully.

 

And a Pisces women tend to respond to that passion, and to be honest, if anyone has enough about them to erode the rock that is Virgo man's composure to get to the deep well of emotion hidden away, it's usually a Pisces woman (or a Taurus woman, beautiful, patient beings they are ).

Don't forget the Cancer girl. I carefully removed that shiny virgin halo with my crab pincers, and now I get to see the angel and devil underneath. In fact, I think I'm the ONLY person who gets to see that

[EasyHeart]

Usually shy. I had a crush on an Aries, and everytime I initiated contact, I never knew if I would get a response, in fact about 70% of the time I didn't . Or it would just be "hi - how are you, I'm fine etc". But I was pretty bad at the whole being romantic/sexy thing at that time. But usually it's because he's nervous about putting himself out there first.

Aries are nothing but trouble.

 

Jes sayin'.

[kae]

virgo men need aggressive playful women. too much talking is a bad sign. i think.. im a virgo female..i need aggressive playful men...who shut me up with a big wet smooch. teehee

[ThaWholigan]

Aries are nothing but trouble.

 

Jes sayin'.

She pretty much told me she was trouble .

[stillafool]

My Virgo was very assertive in chasing me he just never told me he loved me. After 3 years of that I couldn't take it anymore but after the breakup he was constantly trying to find out my true feelings for him. I never told him I loved him either. Finally he ended up marrying an Aries girl whose Venus was in Pisces. So obviously he found what he wanted.

 

ThaWholigan have you ever dated a Libra?

Edited September 6, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[Ruby Slippers]

My Virgo was very assertive in chasing me he just never told me he loved me.

I'm already worrying slightly that this might be a problem with me and my guy. I have a hard time imagining him offering this up freely, and I wouldn't be able to continue without that.

 

Question to the Virgo men (and women) - why is it so hard for you to show emotions and express love verbally?

[ThaWholigan]

My Virgo was very assertive in chasing me he just never told me he loved me. After 3 years of that I couldn't take it anymore but after the breakup he was constantly trying to find out my true feelings for him. I never told him I loved him either. Finally he ended up marrying an Aries girl whose Venus was in Pisces. So obviously he found what he wanted.

 

ThaWholigan have you ever dated a Libra?

 

No, but I have met a lot of beautiful Libran women. They're more wholesome than other air signs, they're a lot like Taurus actually - but they have that prettiness that Air sign women tend to have. I find that Librans with a lot of water in their chart tend to be very emotionally attuned to people - almost too much!

 

I have more experience with Libran men, as my brother is a Libra, and is very socially gregarious and popular with the opposite sex. My mother's current SO is also a Libra, as is one of my bandmates.

 

I'm already worrying slightly that this might be a problem with me and my guy. I have a hard time imagining him offering this up freely, and I wouldn't be able to continue without that.

 

Question to the Virgo men (and women) - why is it so hard for you to show emotions and express love verbally?

 

Fear. I have a Moon in Aquarius which doubles my emotional reservedness - as emotionally expressive as I am, especially when it comes to love matter, I find some emotions to be petty - like jealousy. As such, I refrain from reacting to those feelings, rather finding amusement that I would feel that way for some reason. Just now I saw an update on facebook from the girl I used to like and felt that pang of "I should have tried to date her :rolleyes:", but I just laughed it off to myself because it's funny that I still think that. It doesn't help that she's so hot either. Typical Aries girl - they're always sizzling . I digress....

 

It becomes difficult to show people who you really are, your inner world, because you will see just how uncool we really are underneath. Virgos are worriers, self-critical to a fault, and shy enough to never want to show they're emotions for fear of some perceived repercussions for doing so. That coolness that you see is definitely a part of us, but it's necessary in order to soothe the insecure traits that we do unfortunately possess. I'm fortunate that I'm objective enough to know this and accept it, as such, I am pretty much cool all the time . Too cold, some say. But I'm definitely more emotionally expressive than some of my Virgo brethren, a Pisces Ascendant and a 1st house Mars in Aries will do that.

[babybear]

I guess the conclusion that I have kinda come to with regards to my Virgo is that I should stop wondering why he does/doesn't do the things he does... and just ask myself if I'm happy with where we are/how it's going. I mean, we are physically not in the same place, so that kinda dictates it for now.

 

There are tons of guys out there who are very expressive and will not hesitate to let you know how they feel. His hot/cold actually just started to hurt my feelings after awhile. I think it's worth trying for a while...but set some limits to how long you can wait, or at least express to him that you need some more.

 

Everyone deserves to be happy and in love...and to have a partner that can say it!

[Ruby Slippers]

It becomes difficult to show people who you really are, your inner world, because you will see just how uncool we really are underneath.

Wow, this is very helpful. It really rings true with my guy. He LOOKS so cool and bad-ass on the outside, and it totally makes sense that he would want to hold back on revealing to me how finicky and sensitive he actually is. But I love that about him, because it shows that he IS human and I bet it's what keeps him humble! Without that quality, he'd probably be more inclined to be arrogant and abuse his power.

 

I think this is why Virgo man and Cancer woman get along so well. I'm pretty attuned to both his public self (confident, charming, and fun-loving) and private self (sensitive, fussy, and sweet). And I get why he wants to keep that softer side private - because he understands the power of projecting a confident, unflappable attitude as a man.

[Anela]

Aries are nothing but trouble.

 

Jes sayin'.

 

Speak for yourself.

 

(We need a smiley with a halo. )

[Anela]

I'm already worrying slightly that this might be a problem with me and my guy. I have a hard time imagining him offering this up freely, and I wouldn't be able to continue without that.

 

Question to the Virgo men (and women) - why is it so hard for you to show emotions and express love verbally?

 

I'm going to PM you a link, Ruby. The author of this blog, a sweet girl I've been acquainted with for a while now, is in a dreamy, healthy relationship with a guy who sounds a bit like your guy. They're very happy, and have been together for about a year now.

[Anela]

 

Fear. I have a Moon in Aquarius which doubles my emotional reservedness - as emotionally expressive as I am, especially when it comes to love matter, I find some emotions to be petty - like jealousy. As such, I refrain from reacting to those feelings, rather finding amusement that I would feel that way for some reason. Just now I saw an update on facebook from the girl I used to like and felt that pang of "I should have tried to date her :rolleyes:", but I just laughed it off to myself because it's funny that I still think that. It doesn't help that she's so hot either. Typical Aries girl - they're always sizzling . I digress....

 

I have no idea where this 'sizzling' stuff comes from most of the time. I rarely feel it, but it's the one thing I hear the most, other that I'm sweet and gentle (until someone crosses a line).

 

It becomes difficult to show people who you really are, your inner world, because you will see just how uncool we really are underneath. Virgos are worriers, self-critical to a fault, and shy enough to never want to show they're emotions for fear of some perceived repercussions for doing so. That coolness that you see is definitely a part of us, but it's necessary in order to soothe the insecure traits that we do unfortunately possess. I'm fortunate that I'm objective enough to know this and accept it, as such, I am pretty much cool all the time . Too cold, some say. But I'm definitely more emotionally expressive than some of my Virgo brethren, a Pisces Ascendant and a 1st house Mars in Aries will do that.

 

I have a 6th house Sun, and can relate to this - at least in the past. I don't deal well with attention, positive or negative.

 

I wouldn't know how to be cool if my life depended on it, though. I feel like a total moron, much of the time.

[ThaWholigan]

I have no idea where this 'sizzling' stuff comes from most of the time. I rarely feel it, but it's the one thing I hear the most, other that I'm sweet and gentle (until someone crosses a line).

 

Fire sign girls all have that sizzle

 

 

 

I have a 6th house Sun, and can relate to this - at least in the past. I don't deal well with attention, positive or negative.

 

I wouldn't know how to be cool if my life depended on it, though. I feel like a total moron, much of the time.

 

I have a 6th house Sun too, so I'm Virgo Sun in 6th house - Super Virgo

 

I reckon you will get cooler still as you get on in your life .

[babybear]

Fear. I have a Moon in Aquarius which doubles my emotional reservedness - as emotionally expressive as I am, especially when it comes to love matter, I find some emotions to be petty - like jealousy. As such, I refrain from reacting to those feelings, rather finding amusement that I would feel that way for some reason. Just now I saw an update on facebook from the girl I used to like and felt that pang of "I should have tried to date her :rolleyes:", but I just laughed it off to myself because it's funny that I still think that. It doesn't help that she's so hot either. Typical Aries girl - they're always sizzling . I digress....

 

It becomes difficult to show people who you really are, your inner world, because you will see just how uncool we really are underneath. Virgos are worriers, self-critical to a fault, and shy enough to never want to show they're emotions for fear of some perceived repercussions for doing so. That coolness that you see is definitely a part of us, but it's necessary in order to soothe the insecure traits that we do unfortunately possess. I'm fortunate that I'm objective enough to know this and accept it, as such, I am pretty much cool all the time . Too cold, some say. But I'm definitely more emotionally expressive than some of my Virgo brethren, a Pisces Ascendant and a 1st house Mars in Aries will do that.

 

So, all this talk of Virgos made me text mine today! I made a joke about his upcoming birthday, and he wrote back a little bit later. I wasn't going to respond because he didn't actually ask me anything, but I just wrote back something funny to keep it light. He never responded. Maybe he will or maybe he won't. Of course he could be busy/sleeping/phone died, etc...but is it possible to actually over-think a reply to a simple text?

 

I think I'm gonna throw in the towel with this one. I love you Virgo's, you definitely captivate me...but I think I'm gonna check out the Scorpio scene! They are supposed to be a much better match! Ironically my best friend (girl) is Virgo.

[ThaWholigan]

So, all this talk of Virgos made me text mine today! I made a joke about his upcoming birthday, and he wrote back a little bit later. I wasn't going to respond because he didn't actually ask me anything, but I just wrote back something funny to keep it light. He never responded. Maybe he will or maybe he won't. Of course he could be busy/sleeping/phone died, etc...but is it possible to actually over-think a reply to a simple text?

 

I think I'm gonna throw in the towel with this one. I love you Virgo's, you definitely captivate me...but I think I'm gonna check out the Scorpio scene! They are supposed to be a much better match! Ironically my best friend (girl) is Virgo.

Scorpio man - Pisces woman = perfect match, so they say .

 

Apparently Virgo male - Capricorn woman is a perfect sun sign match too.

 

Meh, I'll probably marry a Scorpio girl

[Malia25]

 

And as another general trait, Virgos are workaholics. Especially if they are in a field they are passionate about, they will put work above all else. They are also more introverted than extroverted, and are a negative, not positive sign. They are also constant worriers.

 

I've been lurking on this forum for the past month after things started to go awry with a...you guessed it...a Virgo! It wasn't until I saw this thread today that I decided to join the discussion. I read all 5 pages of this thread and I feel as though I have been enlightened. Hallelujah....so I'm not alone in thinking Virgo's are subconsciously all that is wrong in relationships. LOL. I kid. I am a Pisces and I met a Virgo not too long ago through an OLD site. His ability to write long, witty, intelligent messages to me struck my heart and after many many manyyyyy texts (is this also a Virgo trait?!) - we finally met. We had a great first date. On the second date, I couldn't get him to talk it seemed. He seemed interested, but getting him to reveal himself and his personality was hard. He would ask me questions, but when I would ask him the same questions back...he didn't have the answers! o_O He was so closed off and I sat there wondering when I would ever see the real him. He said that he is naturally reserved, but will open up with time. I remember coming home from that second date so confused. 'Do you like me or not?' I wondered, while blogging crazily like a madwoman. I had discovered an unemotional, inexpressive man that I was so drawn too...and it was driving me insane.

 

One thing you described above that cracked me up was how overly cocky and confident they claim to be, but inside they are really masking their insecurities. He was constantly saying wonderful things about himself about how great he was and yada, yada. It honestly annoyed me and I would bite back, to bring him back down to life. He didn't display any of these cocky mannerisms in person, but through texts, he made himself out to be a the best thing that ever happened in life. Yes, not attractive, but I was hooked. What can a girl do, but take the friggin' bait? Oy vay.

 

When it comes down to it, I believe he's a great guy. A total and complete workaholic, but great nonetheless. I used to be so upset thinking about how I lost out on someone so awesome w/ so many of the same commonalities as my own - but as a Pisces, I am seeing it clearly now that we are completely incompatible. His lack of emotion and feeling would drive me insane in the future. I talk as though we have a future. Ha. I haven't heard from him in a while. He's always "busy" - which is quite true. haha. I used to think there was something wrong with me, but I really truly do believe it's all because of him and his Virgo ass that we didn't work out. I'm just not perfect enough I guess. *sarcasm alert*

[babybear]

Is it possible that a man...Virgo or any sign really...could doubt a woman's interest because he just doesn't think she could really mean it? Like...why would she like me?

[ThaWholigan]

Is it possible that a man...Virgo or any sign really...could doubt a woman's interest because he just doesn't think she could really mean it? Like...why would she like me?

Certainly is. A lot of guys think they will mess it all up somehow.

[Malia25]

Actually, I haven't had any relationships . Another trend in some Virgo males some might say .

 

I have had various attractions to all signs, but specifically Aries, Scorpios, and indeed Pisces girls. Pisces is the sign directly opposite Virgo, so it's basically an opposites attract kind of deal. Especially if Virgo males and Pisces females are the pairings, it's described in sun sign astrology as the Martyr pairing, as the Pisces is the all-encompassing, 100% feminine ideal, hyper-emotional and understanding, and an ocean full of passion. Whereas Virgo's are cool, and analytical, grounded and reserved.

 

Why must you be so inexpressive and mysterious, oh Virgo one? "My" Virgo left me so hot and cold and confused, I thought I was going crazy. He never complimented me physically or my ahem, assets. Initially I was quite confused. To this day, I still don't know if he ever found me attractive. He never made any mention of it. 'Am I even his type?' I would wonder. Looking back, I actuallly find that to be refreshing. He said he liked my intellect, which is a far better compliment in my mind...but I'd still like to know if he thought I was smokin' or something like it. LOL!

Edited September 7, 2012 by Malia25

[ThaWholigan]

Actually, I haven't had any relationships . Another trend in some Virgo males some might say .

 

I have had various attractions to all signs, but specifically Aries, Scorpios, and indeed Pisces girls. Pisces is the sign directly opposite Virgo, so it's basically an opposites attract kind of deal. Especially if Virgo males and Pisces females are the pairings, it's described in sun sign astrology as the Martyr pairing, as the Pisces is the all-encompassing, 100% feminine ideal, hyper-emotional and understanding, and an ocean full of passion. Whereas Virgo's are cool, and analytical, grounded and reserved.

 

Why must you be so inexpressive and mysterious, oh Virgo one? "My" Virgo left me so hot and cold and confused, I thought I was going crazy. He never complimented me physically or my ahem, assets. Initially I was quite confused. To this day, I still don't know if he ever found me attractive. He never made any mention of it. 'Am I even his type?' I would wonder. Looking back, I actuallly find that to be refreshing. He said he liked my intellect, which is a far better compliment in my mind...but I'd still like to know if he thought I was smokin' or something like. LOL!

 

Oh I'm certainly not inexpressive - but I am mysterious .

 

If he was dating you and actually complimented you on something other than your appearance - he thought you were super hot. Trust me on that one.

 

Pisces girls especially have that all-encompassing femininity that is really like catnip to most guys too, but a Virgo man will never let you know that you've got him sprung like that.

[babybear]

I used to think there was something wrong with me, but I really truly do believe it's all because of him and his Virgo ass that we didn't work out. I'm just not perfect enough I guess. *sarcasm alert*

 

I wanted to quote ur entire thread b/c I'm a Pisces too...and you took the words right out of my mouth. Guess we should both work on being more perfect!!!

[RedRobin]

I'm already worrying slightly that this might be a problem with me and my guy. I have a hard time imagining him offering this up freely, and I wouldn't be able to continue without that.

 

Question to the Virgo men (and women) - why is it so hard for you to show emotions and express love verbally?

 

 

Me, my dad, and my sister are all Virgos (god bless my Leo mom).

 

Answer to question?

 

Because our word is our bond. We don't enter into promises lightly. Emotional investment is a 'promise' to us.

 

Once bonded... Virgos are in it for life... through thick or thin.

 

Up until then... you have a long row to hoe to prove you are worthy of that commitment... Because they are pretty independent and single-minded. Not 'single' as in without a partner... but just rather immune to influences from outsiders trying to bend their will.

 

Virgos show their love through actions... They can learn to express their love through words... but it doesn't come easy. Even then... they will feel VERY taken for granted if their loving actions are not acknowledged in some way.

Edited September 7, 2012 by RedRobin

[Ruby Slippers]

Thanks for the link, Anela

 

He never complimented me physically or my ahem, assets. Initially I was quite confused. To this day, I still don't know if he ever found me attractive. He never made any mention of it. 'Am I even his type?' I would wonder. Looking back, I actuallly find that to be refreshing. He said he liked my intellect, which is a far better compliment in my mind...but I'd still like to know if he thought I was smokin' or something like it. LOL!

YES! I'm already kind of insecure about my looks. I know I'm smart and have a great personality, but worry I'm just cute. So the lack of compliments or much feedback about my appearance was hard on me. Then when he finally laid a big compliment on me, it seemed so out of nowhere, I wasn't sure if I should believe he was sincere!

 

If he was dating you and actually complimented you on something other than your appearance - he thought you were super hot. Trust me on that one.

Nice. Good to know. I wore sexy lingerie for him last week, and when he saw my lacy little nightie under my silk robe, he said, "Oh my god, you are so hot!" and kept going on for a while. Finally! lol

[Ruby Slippers]

Me, my dad, and my sister are all Virgos (god bless my Leo mom).

 

Answer to question?

 

Because our word is our bond. We don't enter into promises lightly. Emotional investment is a 'promise' to us.

 

Once bonded... Virgos are in it for life... through thick or thin.

 

Up until then... you have a long row to hoe to prove you are worthy of that commitment... Because they are pretty independent and single-minded. Not 'single' as in without a partner... but just rather immune to influences from outsiders trying to bend their will.

 

Virgos show their love through actions... They can learn to express their love through words... but it doesn't come easy. Even then... they will feel VERY taken for granted if their loving actions are not acknowledged in some way.

Also VERY helpful. I LOVE that he's completely 100% true to his word. He always, always does what he says he will.

 

He has a way of making me feel like he's auditioning me for the part of his wife. I read that the more a Virgo scrutinizes you and picks at you, the more they like you - because they are trying to look at you under a microscope and make sure you're up to their impossible standards. He will find the tiniest spot of rough skin on my elbow and ask, "What happened here?" Like he's looking for nicks in leather. lol It's kind of endearing and kind of annoying!

 

On the first DATE, he was asking me serious questions that suggested he was looking for something serious. He was questioning my relationship readiness and mentality about long-term commitment.