noonynicky Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 Hello everyone, This is a common problem but I'm going to add a little more context relevant to my specific situation. It is more of a personal decision I have to answer myself. As expected, I'm 27 and am still a virgin. The sequence of events in my life was such that I prioritizes school and career over girls in my early 20's. Whether I regret it or not (a quick answer is I don't), I believe I ended up quite well compared to others: Ivy League, nice car, loving parents, pianist and amateur ice skater* and nice job. So now, knowing that I'm lagging so far behind in the girl department ... I have this to answer: 1. Waiting out until marriage (projected 3 years) 2. Learn about sex so as to build up experience for future wife. Please don't confuse me as some random guy wanting to just get with a girl. I've dated, I've liked girls and I've made out. I just didn't take the extra step because of the main reason that I want a virgin and it's only right to demand one if I myself am a virgin. That's even debatable now because it can be argued that the guy, not a girl, needs experience to lead. With the percentages of virgin girls around my age dropping like flies, I start to even question whether is it worth it to wait. As for values, I value the sanctity of marriage and I am slightly convinced that two virgins up until marriage and staying together forever is the best thing in life. Your thoughts? Please, brutal honesty and not buttered up truth. -Nicky * I would want to one day teach my daughter ice skating.
CarrieT Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 My first question to you would be, "How many virgin girls do you even know?" It would be understandable that you wanted to be a virgin for your marriage, but are you even in a social circle where you are meeting and interacting with others who share the same ideals and philosophy? If you have a support system that encourages this type of restraint then - by all means - continue in that vein. Personally, I would get some experience...
Nyla Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 I don't know if you are religious, but devout Christian or Muslim women tend to wait until marriage for sex. If the religious aspect does not bother you, perhaps starting to attend church would be a good idea. I think it is admirable that you are a virgin because that is what you want. However, it is VERY hard to find a virgin at your age. How about adjusting your expectations for a woman who has had very few partners? 1
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