maiden71 Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 I've been married for a little over a year now. Me and my wife talk all of the time about anything and everything. I'd always thought she was being pretty honest when discussing stuff, though she lied about her ex-husband and there relationship while we were dating. Tonight she left her FB page logged on. I couldn't resist checking her old messages. I found that she was lying about a lot of stuff she's told me about her distant past and while we were dating. Also she used the same exact lines as she did on me with three or four other guys while trying to pursue them on FB after her divorce. I mentioned this to her and of course she's now mad as hell that I looked through her FB page, even though when I joke that I'm going to look through her FB page one day to her, she always says that she doesn't care because she doesn't have anything to hide. I feel like the little bit of trust I've regained since she cheated on me with her ex-husband while we were dating is now gone and I'm back to square one again. Am I the bad guy or the idiot here?
2sure Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 You are not the bad guy. And if you were ever an idiot, you're not anymore. Don't let her hand you this. You've been played, let her fix it.
Furious Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 I've been married for a little over a year now. Me and my wife talk all of the time about anything and everything. I'd always thought she was being pretty honest when discussing stuff, though she lied about her ex-husband and there relationship while we were dating. Tonight she left her FB page logged on. I couldn't resist checking her old messages. I found that she was lying about a lot of stuff she's told me about her distant past and while we were dating. Also she used the same exact lines as she did on me with three or four other guys while trying to pursue them on FB after her divorce. I mentioned this to her and of course she's now mad as hell that I looked through her FB page, even though when I joke that I'm going to look through her FB page one day to her, she always says that she doesn't care because she doesn't have anything to hide. I feel like the little bit of trust I've regained since she cheated on me with her ex-husband while we were dating is now gone and I'm back to square one again. Am I the bad guy or the idiot here? She has lying down to an art form, looks like that's how she operates. Liars hate having their privacy invaded, of course she's fuming that you looked through her Facebook, and as most liars do, they turn the table and make themselves the victim and turn you into the bad guy. You are not the bad guy, but if you ignore her true nature, she will turn you into an idiot.
Ninja'sHusband Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 (edited) I tell myself everyday over and over that I cannot be in a relationship with my unfaithful wife(whom I am 2 months separated from w/divorce pending) because she has lied to me so much. You can never be sure of where you are with a liar. They wil drive you crazy. If they are protecting their "privacy" in a marriage, that is a huge red flag. She's decided for you that you would be ok being married to someone with her past? That's not fair. It's only now that you know the truth about the person you married? Edited September 6, 2012 by Ninja'sHusband
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