lover4721 Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 We were together last weekend and it was great... I went home, and we haven't talked until today... Anyhow, my last thread, you will see that I don't trust her when she says she likes me... She says it, but barely shows it. :/ SO at times, I would question if she found someone better... She changed her city on Zoosk when she moved to college, and is usually online. However she said her friend did that. So that made me lead to the thoughts of her not wanting me, but wanting someone else. However, it does seem like she is interested... So now she told her friend, which is actually a girl I graduated with, that she is visiting her campus! She said just visiting Friday and Saturday. She added someone from the campus, AND he is also on Zoosk. So now that leads to me over-thinking that she was looking on Zoosk, and found him. I asked if she found someone else, and she said it's actually a party her friend invited her to. I just kinda have a hard time trusting her words... Maybe I am jealous she is talking to other guys? We have been talking for about 3 months now, was together twice, slept with her twice as well (not sexually). We only hugged as well. She said she wants to date, but wants my full trust. She also said her ex accused her of some much things, and she doesn't want someone accusing her. :/ I told her if she makes me feel significant and shows she likes me, then I will be able to trust her. So what do I do? There are many more parts of the story, good and bad, but I didn't include them. I was just wondering what I should do... Just like, not even think about being played with, and just love her? She also hates my insults. Like, I'd say "Nah I'm okay." when she would ask me to close the blind in her dorm room, but then I would... IT's because I'm sorta shy, and it hides my true personality. She hates that. I want this to work, but I need to trust her somehow, but I cannot because she adds so many people, and I fear she is looking for someone else. Ah, too many thoughts.
phineas Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 You stop talking to her & find someone who doesn't make you feel like you don't matter. At least that is what I would do.
Author lover4721 Posted September 6, 2012 Author Posted September 6, 2012 Well she makes me feel like I matter, but I don't feel too significant to her that would allow me to trust her completely. I would do that too, but I got emotionally connected to her. :/
Mme. Chaucer Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 I think you only have 2 choices. Follow the advice of the other poster and move on, or keep dating this girl and take her at her word. Nobody is going to stick around for constant accusations, innocent or guilty, so you'll be driving her away regardless.
Author lover4721 Posted September 6, 2012 Author Posted September 6, 2012 Okay thank you! We talked about things and I told her where I am coming from and what I need out of this relationship... She has yet to reply to how she thinks of it. I'm not sure on the choice I'm going to make lol. ALSO, keep coming with the advice. I need a lot of people to tell me to like move on, so I can see it isn't worth it.
Author lover4721 Posted September 8, 2012 Author Posted September 8, 2012 Hey -- update - I am kinda glad her and I are done with. I am glad I didn't give her my full trust. I added him on Skype and they are both on at the same time, again. She waited until 2AM to talk to him. It wasn't like that for me. It is terrible that this sounds like a four year old relationship. I pick the wrong women. I have a hard time seeing things as another way and thinking about what to do so I come here and ask for help. I think this new relationship is most definitely over with. I wouldn't want to get cheated on anyhow, so I am glad it didn't work out.
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