BassWalker Posted September 5, 2012 Posted September 5, 2012 I'm 32 and in college. I finally asked out a younger girl from one of my classes, she's 21. She already knew my age and my back story before she agreed to hang out. We met up for lunch and at first the conversation was slow but, once we started talking we had good conversation. Then we went Target the dept store to walk around. As we're walking towards the entrance she grabs my hand. She asks if it's ok, I'm like sure. We walk around the store and head out and I give her a little kiss and she says we'll hangout soon. I'm thinking this looks promising. On her facebook page she wrote how she had such a great date with me. I tried to text her a few days later, no reply. Then I tried to call her, no call back. Then in class she didn't even say hi. The only thing I can think of is one of her friends got to her saying my age or something. Anyone have any ideas?
Pasttense Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 It could be your age, but could be lots of other things as well. For example suppose she had just had a fight with her boyfriend the first time she talked to you--but then they made up. Or she met another guy she is more interested in. Or she is just fickle. It doesn't really matter; just move on. 1
2sure Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 Could be that. Could be she woke up this morning and decided she would only date men with green eyes. Could be she decided to not date, or decided to reconnect with an ex. Maybe she likes girls now. At 21, we're all over the place. No telling.
navyblueskies Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 I wouldn't worry, dude. She's 21 and 21 is like the new 18, they're just all over the board. It could be the age, maybe. Even so, I wouldn't let it get to you, since you can't control you're age anyway. You'll want to be with someone mature who accepts you're age, unless you're just planning to fool around. But it doesn't like it. One thing though is you should be a little more assertive. It sounded like on the last date that she was the one calling the shots. Being 32, it's expected that you will be the one leading and calling the shots. I mean, you don't have to get all over her, but make sure to take charge, because that will be more suiting for your age. Good luck, man.
SJC2008 Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 Did you have class with her in between the date and when you texted her?
FitChick Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 At that age, their girlfriends have the most veto power.
nessaaa Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 It could be your age, but could be lots of other things as well. For example suppose she had just had a fight with her boyfriend the first time she talked to you--but then they made up. Or she met another guy she is more interested in. Or she is just fickle. It doesn't really matter; just move on. This is the first thing that came into my mind. Maybe u were a rebound guy, or used to make someone jealous. Ask her ?
threebyfate Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 Why did you wait a few days prior to texting her?
KathyM Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 At that age, their girlfriends have the most veto power. Yep, either her friends or her family told her she's crazy for dating a guy so much older than her. Friends and family look out for people and don't usually hesitate to tell someone if they are off track. When my 23 year old niece took up with a guy much older than her, her friends and my sister came down hard on her for it, and she eventually left him. When my other sister took up with a guy who had multiple divorces, I gave her flack for that. Alas, she learned the hard way that she should have listened when her family, who had her best interests at heart, tried to warn her. Most likely this girl got a lot of "Are you crazy?" from friends and family. They have her best interests at heart, and dating someone 11 years older for a girl only 21 is usually not a good plan. You're in a different life stage than her. Too much of a difference.
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