rcgj Posted September 5, 2012 Posted September 5, 2012 so i pretty much have in mind what i want in life...she doesn't we been trhough a bunch of break up..mostly silly things and of course future things. so recently she broke up with me i want to try the NC has anyone been in a relation where theres been something similar and now married? or has anyone tried NC and is now married?
quankanne Posted September 5, 2012 Posted September 5, 2012 get yer butts to a marriage enrichment program so you can learn to better communicate with each other. I think that is probably the biggest gift you can give your marriage, the earlier the better. Most of the problems you have will be put into perspective and you can focus on the important part (sharing, setting goals, etc) without it becoming an arguing point just because you're looking at it or coming from different viewpoints. can I ask how old you are? Because "break-ups" tend to be the solution of younger (or even immature, though they're not necessarily the same group of) people who have no idea what relationships are about.
Author rcgj Posted September 5, 2012 Author Posted September 5, 2012 im 23 and she is the one always breaking up..and shes the one that doesnt have her future planned
Enema Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 I don't think he's married yet quank. rcgj - I wouldn't rest your hopes on this one going the distance. If you're having this many problems early on, it's likely to fail before marriage. God forbid - during.
threebyfate Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 If you're making and breaking up all the time, don't go there with her. Time to give up and find someone who you're compatible with. Use NC to move on. 1
JamesM Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 has anyone been in a relation where theres been something similar and now married? We broke up once, and got back together. We have been married 22 years. I have a friend who did the same thing. He is divorced for a few years and that was after about 15 years of marriage. or has anyone tried NC and is now married? We kinda did NC. We only talked on the phone. It lasted two weeks. Having said that, if you had had multiple breakups, then I would personally sit down with her and say that you cannot be exclusive. When we broke up, my wife had one date and knew that she still wanted me. Perhaps if you both dated a few more people, then it will be clear to both of you whether you want each other. If you do get back together, then you had better get some premarital counseling to learn how to "fight."
JamesM Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 If you're making and breaking up all the time, don't go there with her. Time to give up and find someone who you're compatible with. Use NC to move on. Ditto 100%. 1
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