Embarrassing or awkward experience after breakup?

[KansasChica]

Okay, so I'm about to have a panic attack- to calm me down, I'm writing this post. My friend sent out an email to a group of us. I replied back and asked how she was and made a comment about running into my ex's roommate. I may have called him so "not so nice" names in the email- not my proudest moment, but he really does suck at life. Turns out that it "replied to all" including his girlfriend's best friend. I'm sure it will get back to him. Has anyone ever done anything embarrassing like this? Facebook? Awkward run in? Sigh...

[Mike_d]

nothing you can do about it now, ever forward. at some point you'll stop caring about what other people think, that's a good place to be

[KatZee]

Yeah, when I realized he decided to officially end it for good with me when he met this other girl. And she was a downgrade. And that it fell apart in less than 30 days.

 

Oh wait, embarrassing and awkward for who?

[KansasChica]

haha... I guess for me. Mike, I really really want to be there: not caring what these people think. These were people I once was so close to- traveled with, hung out with, cooked with. Then, when my ex dumped me, it's like they could care less if I was alive or dead. Some friends. I guess it happens though.

[KatZee]

haha... I guess for me. Mike, I really really want to be there: not caring what these people think. These were people I once was so close to- traveled with, hung out with, cooked with. Then, when my ex dumped me, it's like they could care less if I was alive or dead. Some friends. I guess it happens though.

 

Especially if those people were his friends to start with. I don't talk to anyone I was "friends" with when I dated my ex. We were together almost three years. Close to 50 people I met through him. I talk to none. I've had about 6 who I thought were relatively good friends just off me on Facebook.

 

My ex is the one in the wrong with the entire breakup. He played me, and lied to me for so long and some of these people even KNEW THIS and still decided to out me like I'm the piece of ****.

 

It's always how it goes.

[KansasChica]

I agree and that's been the hardest part of this whole thing. I had friends that were my friends before my ex and I dated. Then my ex and his best friend came into the picture and we were all mutual friends. My ex really effed me over in this whole deal and has been a cold, heartless person since the breakup. Yet, many of my friends still talk to my ex and his horrible best friend.

 

I'm finding myself at a crossroads now where I need to lose the mutual friends and find more meaningful people in my life who won't constantly remind me of my ex. :/

[Floored]

I sucks losing mutual friends over breakups, especially if they were your friends before you even met the ex. I don't know why I did, I tried keeping my woes confined to only a few best friends, but I did anyway. So here's what I'm thinking for you.

 

You have two choices

1) Not panic, you lost something dear to you and getting pissed off about it is natural, as is lashing out at people and things that are valued by your ex (I HATED my ex's new BFFFLOL that she picked up about eight months ago before we split; loved to brag about how often she cheated on her boyfriend and how much money he spent on her, just a disgusting piece of work). Realize that most people in the conversation will understand; if they don't understand, they either haven't ever experienced that kind of pain and aren't worth worrying about, or they weren't going to be on your side anyway.

 

OR

 

2) Repost the entire bit you wrote in case someone missed it the first time, but end the post with a few pictures of crocodiles eating hippos to really drive the point across.

[2sure]

If anyone ever mentions it in any way again...just act like you intended to reply to all and look puzzled because you thought that's what everyone called him.