KansasChica Posted September 5, 2012 Posted September 5, 2012 It's amazing how some exes just never reach out. Maybe it's the whole "clean break" thing. When he broke up with me 9 months ago, he made no attempts to contact me. If I saw him out, he'd walk right past me or pretend not to see me. I was like "really?" I've accepted that he doesn't want to be in a relationship with me. He told me he wanted to date others and I accepted that. I've made no other attempts to contact him, but our last conversation went very well. We had a great relationship. I was the first girl he told he loved. We traveled together and met each other's families. We both shared more than we've ever shared with another person. But there were definite red flags that I ignored: his avoidant behavior, his insecurities. He was very passive, but would lash out at other drivers and put down others all the time. Recently one of my closest friends died suddenly. He met her; we had both stayed with her on vacation. He never contacted me at all. I know he heard, because several of my friends that he hangs out with still texted me to express condolences. They never even met her. Is it too much to ask that someone show they might still care? Even if they don't want to date again. Sorry all. Just needed to vent. I guess this was just icing on the cake for me to say "good riddance".
LostGirl11 Posted September 5, 2012 Posted September 5, 2012 It's amazing how some exes just never reach out. Maybe it's the whole "clean break" thing. When he broke up with me 9 months ago, he made no attempts to contact me. If I saw him out, he'd walk right past me or pretend not to see me. I was like "really?" I've accepted that he doesn't want to be in a relationship with me. He told me he wanted to date others and I accepted that. I've made no other attempts to contact him, but our last conversation went very well. We had a great relationship. I was the first girl he told he loved. We traveled together and met each other's families. We both shared more than we've ever shared with another person. But there were definite red flags that I ignored: his avoidant behavior, his insecurities. He was very passive, but would lash out at other drivers and put down others all the time. Recently one of my closest friends died suddenly. He met her; we had both stayed with her on vacation. He never contacted me at all. I know he heard, because several of my friends that he hangs out with still texted me to express condolences. They never even met her. Is it too much to ask that someone show they might still care? Even if they don't want to date again. Sorry all. Just needed to vent. I guess this was just icing on the cake for me to say "good riddance". If the relationship ended on good terms then I don't see why he can't show some empathy , you say that he met her too? Hmm, maybe you dodged a bullet. Some people just don't have a caring bone in their body.
Author KansasChica Posted September 5, 2012 Author Posted September 5, 2012 I'm starting to believe so too. He hasn't shown any empathy at all since the breakup. Yeah, we both stayed at her house on vacation. He actually met her several times.
Phanpooh Posted September 5, 2012 Posted September 5, 2012 I do it now and it's okay for me, any question?
Phanpooh Posted September 5, 2012 Posted September 5, 2012 "It's amazing how some exes just never reach out. Maybe it's the whole "clean break" thing. When he broke up with me 9 months ago, he made no attempts to contact me. If I saw him out, he'd walk right past me or pretend not to see me. I was like "really?" I've accepted that he doesn't want to be in a relationship with me. He told me he wanted to date others and I accepted that. I've made no other attempts to contact him, but our last conversation went very well." this ****, and i'm fine with it... and the truth, my breakup was in good temp ( she thought) but for me, it's worst like everytime... so i decided to not reach out of her own business. i'm really mean it and i would show that i don't care about it... and she is doing that too... PS: my break-up is about 10 months ago NC for almost 9months
Phanpooh Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 She dated new one and i gave her a break. Then she slept with him and it's over. For more ****, she borrowed my best friend's money and just moved to other country. I shouldn't care, at all.
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