second-date predicaments & dilemmas!!

[Anna84]

So I was set up for a blind date last monday evening. My friend told one of her colleagues at work about me, showed him some of my FB pics. He was keen, and texted me, asking me out for a drink and let me decide where.

 

I was nervous as hell, but luckily and intentionally 'fashionably' late (by 3 minutes, although he'd arrived 10 minutes too early). I had no idea of course how things were going to turn out, expecting the worst.

 

However, we started talking and had a great time -no awkard silences, no awkardness whatsoever. We sat there for 3,5 hours, till the clock struck twelve and the cafe was closing. He had to get up at 6, but despite that suggested going to another cafe as he did not want to go home yet, enjoying himself that much.

 

He paid the bill, and as soon as we arrived started chatting away again. This cafe was due to close aswell, and we moved inside. We sat next to each other, and he'd already said he wanted to see me again and that he fancied me. Suddenly he leant in to kiss me, and so I kissed him back, it was very nice. We both admitted though that this had not been part of the plan, to kiss on the first date. I offered to pay this bill, but he said something like in exchange it would have to be up to me to sort out the next date, and that he was flexible and that I could come up with anything.

 

Off we went to the third cafe to shoot a game of pool, we kissed again, two or three times, then moved on to the final cafe. After that one closed (he paid all the bills) he rode me home. By this time it was 2 in the morning, and he had 4 hours of sleep left.

 

He apped me the following morning around 9.30, so I replied, and received a couple of more apps, asking me what i was up to and how my day was going.

My last reply, yesterday, did not end in a question, because I thought it might be interpreted as too interested or whatever.

 

Anyway, TODAY, I have not heard from him a single thing. Is this O.K.? Should I read some sort of hint from this?

 

Then the next very important question, is it O.K. for me to ask him out on the second date? Or should I firmly hold on to the convention that men like the chase, and if he really wants to see me again he'll instigate the second date (again) -despite the fact that he told me I was supposed to think of the next date activity or something along those lines?

 

ANY INPUT is very, very welcome! I LIKE THIS GUY!

[veggirl]

yeah you need to ask him on the 2nd date. you guys already discussed YOU setting the 2nd date, you need to follow through.