LoveHurts88 Posted September 5, 2012 Posted September 5, 2012 So i had dinner with my ex's sister yesterday. We were talking and she said that my ex has been out almost everyday drinking and what not. But we connected the dots that she was sometimes out, not sure if shes seeing the guy who she was seeing last yr when we broke up. This hurts especially when i asked her if she was seeing someone she said no. And i hate this guy. This makes me angry and makes me hate my ex
bluefairy812 Posted September 5, 2012 Posted September 5, 2012 if there is something i havee learned is that it is NOT a good idea to find out sh*t about your ex. really not a good idea. your mind wanders in 1000 different directions and all for nothing. it will not change who your ex is seeing, what they are doing, or anything in their life. i honestly would stay away from everyone that has to do with your ex, and if you cannot, make it a point to not know anything about the ex. it only hurts you in the end and makes things worse. it makes you want to confront the ex, allegations may arise (did you cheat on me?) not worth it. stay away, as hard as it is
Author LoveHurts88 Posted September 5, 2012 Author Posted September 5, 2012 if there is something i havee learned is that it is NOT a good idea to find out sh*t about your ex. really not a good idea. your mind wanders in 1000 different directions and all for nothing. it will not change who your ex is seeing, what they are doing, or anything in their life. i honestly would stay away from everyone that has to do with your ex, and if you cannot, make it a point to not know anything about the ex. it only hurts you in the end and makes things worse. it makes you want to confront the ex, allegations may arise (did you cheat on me?) not worth it. stay away, as hard as it is I know =[ but i just wanted to know. I wanted her back, im going NC. Its been 2 days nothing big but its a start.
stillafool Posted September 5, 2012 Posted September 5, 2012 You should stay away from your ex's family. You will only hear things that will upset you. When people bring up your ex tell them you don't want to hear about it. You cannot heal if you keep your ex on your brain. Don't do it.
bluefairy812 Posted September 5, 2012 Posted September 5, 2012 I know =[ but i just wanted to know. I wanted her back, im going NC. Its been 2 days nothing big but its a start. absolutely it's a start. good for you for taking that step. going cold turkey is even better. make sure you talk to alot of people and keep yourself busy, ignore everything and anything from the ex. unless its the magic words: "i'm sorry, i made a mistake, let's work it out. i want you in my life." it's a win/win situation. NC helps you heal. if the ex doesn't come back, your better off. if the ex comes back, ball is in your court, and you may not even wanna go back to that at that point.
Author LoveHurts88 Posted September 5, 2012 Author Posted September 5, 2012 absolutely it's a start. good for you for taking that step. going cold turkey is even better. make sure you talk to alot of people and keep yourself busy, ignore everything and anything from the ex. unless its the magic words: "i'm sorry, i made a mistake, let's work it out. i want you in my life." it's a win/win situation. NC helps you heal. if the ex doesn't come back, your better off. if the ex comes back, ball is in your court, and you may not even wanna go back to that at that point. =[ thing is i want to let her know im not going to b around anymore. She asked if i could help her sell our fish tank i said yes. But i think i should have said no so she knows im not goin to be the one that does this stuff for her anymore?
Author LoveHurts88 Posted September 5, 2012 Author Posted September 5, 2012 Also on her whatsapp status she has not sure if it has to do with our breakup?
flitzanu Posted September 5, 2012 Posted September 5, 2012 So i had dinner with my ex's sister yesterday. We were talking and she said that my ex has been out almost everyday drinking and what not. But we connected the dots that she was sometimes out, not sure if shes seeing the guy who she was seeing last yr when we broke up. This hurts especially when i asked her if she was seeing someone she said no. And i hate this guy. This makes me angry and makes me hate my ex so your ex is living her life since you've broken up. what did you expect? never in the history of Ever has someone dug for gossip and found good things about their ex. 1
g450 Posted September 5, 2012 Posted September 5, 2012 so your ex is living her life since you've broken up. what did you expect? never in the history of Ever has someone dug for gossip and found good things about their ex. Exactly! OP needs some tough love! Who gives a **** what the X is doing. That's none of his concern. Now it's time for the OP to live his own life but like so many here Im sure he will completely ignore all the advice given and continue to pine over his x. I mean seriously...taking the X's sister out for dinner to spy on your X? How pathetic is that? OP just needs to get a life. My guess is he will continue new threads about the breadcrumbs she throws him or about some new info he got by stalking her. Or he will spend hours here trying to anylize her actions every time she farts. It's sad. In the meantime his X is doing what HE is supposed to be doing. Moving on and enjoying life. OP needs to live his life and go completely NC. Block all communication options and stop stalking her. He also needs to cut off ties with her family. That is not helpful and IMHO is beyond creepy. Who does that? 1
Author LoveHurts88 Posted September 6, 2012 Author Posted September 6, 2012 Exactly! OP needs some tough love! Who gives a **** what the X is doing. That's none of his concern. Now it's time for the OP to live his own life but like so many here Im sure he will completely ignore all the advice given and continue to pine over his x. I mean seriously...taking the X's sister out for dinner to spy on your X? How pathetic is that? OP just needs to get a life. My guess is he will continue new threads about the breadcrumbs she throws him or about some new info he got by stalking her. Or he will spend hours here trying to anylize her actions every time she farts. It's sad. In the meantime his X is doing what HE is supposed to be doing. Moving on and enjoying life. OP needs to live his life and go completely NC. Block all communication options and stop stalking her. He also needs to cut off ties with her family. That is not helpful and IMHO is beyond creepy. Who does that? I am not stalking her, her sister asked me to go to dinner with her so that we could talk. Her and her sister aren't that close.
Car10e Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 I can see why it could be upsetting to you, but if you're broken up it was going to happen eventually. It could be worse. My ex started seeing someone while we went on a break and denied it. He denied it, even though everyone was telling me, even his new girl. A week later I saw them together. You can only imagine how furious I was. As hard as it seems, you have to let go of her, and anything related to her. That means not meeting any of her family members. Its okay to have anger towards your ex, just dont act on it.
barese1 Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 I recently found out my ex is woth someone new no too. It hurts but itys true. Would do we expect? They're living their lives and aren't doing anything wrong. I hope its the push both me and you need to let go completely.
flitzanu Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 I am not stalking her, her sister asked me to go to dinner with her so that we could talk. Her and her sister aren't that close. trust me on this, NOTHING good ever comes from talking to your ex's friends or family. been there, done that. and i guarantee you 100% your ex knows she had dinner with you. 1
g450 Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 I am not stalking her, her sister asked me to go to dinner with her so that we could talk. Her and her sister aren't that close. Talk about what exacly? Sorry if some of us didnt fall of the turnip truck yesterday.
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