Love for ex is resurfacing. What's the best course of action?

[RogerWallace111]

That's the part that bothers me the most, we had everything in common expect how we treat the relationship, which happens to be one of the most important things.

 

Why do they always praise women for being "mature". I didn't see that at all.

 

 

I feel the same about my ex. She has a particular (and unrealistic) picture painted in her head of what the perfect relationship should be, and what the perfect guy should be. I am the guy she wants, but the relationship isn't 100% fairytale so it's ****ed in her mind.

 

I know, and men have their own gang of faults of course, but it seems like weak actions on a womans part often get labeled as strong somehow... Conviction is not the same as strength.

[Tree_Salmon]

I feel the same about my ex. She has a particular (and unrealistic) picture painted in her head of what the perfect relationship should be, and what the perfect guy should be. I am the guy she wants, but the relationship isn't 100% fairytale so it's ****ed in her mind.

 

I know, and men have their own gang of faults of course, but it seems like weak actions on a womans part often get labeled as strong somehow... Conviction is not the same as strength.

 

This may just be a stage in the NC process but it's been on my mind allot.

 

I keep painting this perfect picture of my ex in my head. It's a dangerous thing.

[BooBoo1982]

This may just be a stage in the NC process but it's been on my mind allot.

 

I keep painting this perfect picture of my ex in my head. It's a dangerous thing.

 

How long have you been apart? Is she still with her rebound and saying she wants to make things work with you?

[Tree_Salmon]

How long have you been apart? Is she still with her rebound and saying she wants to make things work with you?

 

We were NC for a little over 2 months. She came back while with her rebound and pretended she wasnt in a relationship.

 

She started hinting at getting back together and was really liking my new attitude on life.

 

She kept pushing to meet up. Eventually we met up. She cheated on her rebound by making out with me then begged me for sex. I refused. Its been over a month of NC since then.

[flitzanu]

the letter is only going to solidify that YOU care much more than she does, and it will give her validation to continue treating you like crap and that you'll sit back and pine over her.

 

letter after breakup = bad idea.

[Tree_Salmon]

the letter is only going to solidify that YOU care much more than she does, and it will give her validation to continue treating you like crap and that you'll sit back and pine over her.

 

letter after breakup = bad idea.

 

Yeah, I don't know what was going through my mind when i wrote this.

 

It's definitely over with now. No letters.

 

Sometimes we forget what we're worth. This girl had to compete with 4 others when she first met me. I'm not going to lower myself because of the breakup.

 

I think this is probably part of my way of dealing and making sense of things. I have some very nice prospects but I don't feel like dating anyone yet. I want to get rid of all this emotional poison first.