Starnette83 Posted July 21, 2004 Posted July 21, 2004 Okay today is 3 day no contact, and even tho i cant cry cuz ive been through these breakups with him before, i still cant get him off my mind..we dated 3 years 1/2 and we were eachothers first love..anyways he broke up with me, cuz he wanted to see what else was out there..(he had girls #'s which caused fights!) Anyways sometimes i feel like i really wont meet anyone else who i love and feel as comftorable as i felt with him, its sad ...its like ok ..this was it for me...I loved my bf and i loved being with him, i felt comfty in his arms, i wasnt embarassed to be myself, to show my body to him, or anyting like that, i could even dig my nose..grr..he did too tho:p anyways my point is that i shared EVERYTHIGN with him, we were friends and lovers and we were great but...i guess things come to an end.. i just dont know..i keep thinking of him, its like he will always be there..haunting me...i dont think i can feel this way ever again with anyone else but him, thats why it sucks, cuz i wish he would one day realize it or maybe feel my same way..but i think hes probably already dating again, which i cant do cuz im not intrested in guys at all...they all seem so BLA to me:(...what to do?? is this normal, and when will i feel ok without him???
H2WOMRWA Posted July 21, 2004 Posted July 21, 2004 Hey girl, whats up? I hope you are getting through this alot better than you say you are. Anyways, I want you to know that i'm going through the same situation. I feel the same way about my ex g/f as you do about your ex b/f. It's like u feel sooo perfect with that person, and you never want to leave there arms. Then when this happens it makes you sick to your stomach. Personally, I wouldn't give them space right away. I would go for the gold for the first week, and make them think. Tell him how you feel, and what you really want. Ask him what he really wants. You must test his emotions, and see where it is he stands. Make him think and realise that he wants to be with you. If this doesn't work, the no contact game is about your best bet. I don't know where you are with him, and how long ago you broke up, but when they finally contact you and realise they need to talk to you they will. If they really care anyways. When he knows you want him back, then he will continue to date, and know u will always be there waiting because it seems like u truly do love him. Instead, if he calls and asks to do something, play it safe, and say: "i already made plans for that night." (even if you really didn't, be strong cause this will make him your puppet now, so he realises he really likes you.) Also, u wanna be the first one to hang up. Now you will be playing with his emotions. HE will be like, well why did she want me back soo bad, then suddenly just stop. "maybe she is dating someone new?" it will make him wonder. And if he really cares he will call back again. If he does, maybe this time if he asks you to hang out say: "well, i made plans again, but if you *really want me to* and *if it will really mean alot to you* i could cancel plans, and reschedule with them or whoever." This will assure you that it is important, and they really do like you. From here on out, i dunno where to go, but i haven't even got to the no contact zone yet. I'm still trying to get her back. If you would like to read my situation and the responses, you can. It will be under this same topic. We'll i hope things work out for you, keep us all posted also!~
Author Starnette83 Posted July 21, 2004 Author Posted July 21, 2004 thanxz, well we broke up on saturday, and i just told him to promise me not to call me and he did, he acted like everything is positive, and like it wasnt a big deal , while i was breaking down in tears, i couldnt control my self, i really didnt want us breaking up but i also couldnt deal with him and always having girls # and calling them behind my back... we dated 3.5 years- lost our virginity together and we have broken up like 4 times this year, all of em lasting about a week..and we got back either cuz i approached him and that last one was cuz he approached me...anyways thats why i feel this is the last time and no coming back for either... we tried working it out before but we kept fighting, he kept saying "oh next time i wont call the girl" and then he would lie to me cuz id find out he did, he was constantly lying and id always catch him in his lies and it got annoying and frustrating for me and then i would go and be moody and bitchy at him, and told him how i feel but he wouldnt listen, hed just say "We'll talk about it tommorow" and then tommorow would come and i didnt wanna even bother anymore and it was like forgottten./... anyways i wanna really forget him tho, i dont think hes worth my time, but it just seems so difficult cuz tho we had alot of fighting he knows i loved him and we had lots of fun togethjer either just chilling at his home or going out and hanging out..ugh its just hes curious what else is out there what killed it..uh is really what out there worth losing me? i guess so cuz seems like he pocked that, now i just wonder if he will realize or easily forget about me, his personality is weird hes the type of guy who has 2 personalities, he can go from the sweetest coolest bf ever to just a cold mean bf that u cant stand..hes so weird..at times he was sweet n close then cold n distant..what the?!
t866 Posted July 21, 2004 Posted July 21, 2004 I'm going through the same exact thing. Me and my boyfriend broke up (together 4 years) cause he wants to party. We used to break-up get back together over and over again. Would you rather go through the pain now? Or go through it the rest of your life with him and go through the same drama (girls numbers)? I know how you feel you were with him for a long time and it made you comfortable. It's like all you know is him. No contact is the best thing MAKE HIM MISS YOU!!! Guys handle break-up's different then girls. We get sad right away, it takes a litle longer for guys, they don't realize what they got so soon. If he wants you NOTHING can kepp him away, if he doesn't nothing can make him stay!! There is always somebody for someone. I felt the same way that you were so comfortable with him being naked, burping, farting etc. You need to find someone that has the same morals, dreams and beliefs. Do something to take your mind off of it. I know that you want to call him every second, but that will push him away further. Stay strong. make him realize what he missed out on you didn't do nothing wrong but love him. While he had other girls' numbers, hell no. Don't sit around and what for him move on. If your meant to be then your meant to be. Believe me you will find somone else that you feel comfortable with and that would never hurt you. If your ex keeps changing his mind about the relationship, take that as a sign that he is unstable. Do you really want a man like that? Last thing... you do have to kiss a few frogs before you find your prince, Remember that and good luck, stay strong.
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