Dicorced and two months later!

[Moose]

Everything I've suspected is coming true. Not even two months since the divorce and I show up to pick up more of my daughter's belongings and there is the guy she's been seeing, (and I suspected as such) for months BEFORE our divorce.

 

My question is, for those that have been through this...is it too early to file for a modification in maintenance support?

 

Why should I pay to keep her new man dry, fed and comfortable?

 

Do I have to wait a full year or should I just cut her off and see if she takes me to court?

 

Any input would be greatly appreciated...

[paperboy48]

You no longer have to wait a full year....

[whichwayisup]

Wow Moosey..She truly is a piece of work.

 

Talk to your lawyer about this. Why should you pay her spousal support when now she with someone else. And yes, I believe she was with him during your marriage. No way did they 'just' meet and hook up. He's probably been in the background for much longer than you realize.

 

Has this guy been around your kids?

 

I hope you're doing okay.

[Moose]

Thanks WWIU.

 

I'm holding my own. It really...I mean REALLY hurt to see her with another man. But it clears up the suspisions (SW?) I've had for a long time.

 

I don't have a lawyer. I represented myself Pro Se'.

 

I can file for a modification myself, that' no big deal.

 

Yes, he's been around my kids and in fact it was my eldest daughter who told me about him after the fact. On the way home she said her mom has been seeing him ever since she got her job at Wal-Mart. (MONTHS before she brought up the drinking and divorce word).

 

I can't believe I was so STUPID!!!

 

My head is still spinning!

[standtall]

moose..just as long as you pay by the time she gets you to court then you will be okay. Nobody says you have to be upfront and on time.

[yessy21]

Make sure that you have proof that he is there so the judge wont think that your just being jelaous. if she has a man living with her then you defenitley do not have to maintain her.

[JamesM]

Moose, I don't have much advice, but I have to say that I am sorry how this all went down. After all you two have been through to have it come down to this! It is sad that you have to deal with this pain and frustration.

 

What makes it worse is that you daughter knew. I truly hope this all works out good for you. You do have someone IRL who you can talk to about your anger and feelings, don't you? This could set you back if you have to deal with it alone. We are here for you, but it may not be enough.

 

Odd I know what you mean that while it really hurts, it may help in that questions are answered.

 

I am with WWIU. Talk this over with your divorce lawyer and don't let her get away with this.

[Moose]

Thanks James and yessy...

 

I do have family albeit a biased insight to all of this...not really anyone else to talk to though...

[wow04]

It depends on what your divorce papers say. Do they state you have to pay until she is remarried? If so you might not have a case. Best to talk to a lawyer.

[Moose]

It depends on what your divorce papers say. Do they state you have to pay until she is remarried? If so you might not have a case. Best to talk to a lawyer.

It does, but the Judge is in my favor. I am the petitioner and he even told the late Mrs. Moose that if I found out if she has any support from others that he would gladly modify.

 

He reamed her about how unusual it is for the petitioner to agree to pay support.

 

I don't think I'd have any problems what so ever.

[mark982]

moose, why not pay for a PI to camp outside her house for a few days.. get all your proof on paper,she can't lie then

[yessy21]

moose, why not pay for a pi to camp outside her house for a few days.. Get all your proof on paper,she can't lie then

 

 

yes! Do it!