irc333 Posted September 5, 2012 Posted September 5, 2012 I was wondering, during my times of dating, I have often found myself skeptical when a woman FINALLY show interest in me, and I tend to question whether or not it's genuine or not? Often times, it turns out to be her just wanting my attention, because face it, she knew I had an interest in her, and thus she'll only PRETEND to be interested back just to keep your attention going. I just met a woman I'm into, but I just want to keep an eye out for any signs of genuine and not feigned interest.
truth_seeker Posted September 5, 2012 Posted September 5, 2012 In my experiences, if they return your phone calls, text messages and go on a date with you, they have genuine interest. If they DO NOT return your phone calls, text messages and make excuses to not go on a date with you, then they have no interest in you. 2
phineas Posted September 5, 2012 Posted September 5, 2012 I've had these problems in the past. I can summarize my whole dating philosophy in one simple rule. I don't answer to a woman i'm not sleeping with on the regular. Basically, they can have me for an evening once a week but that's it. I got other things to do. I don't spend time talking on the phone or texting much at all in between dates until we are official. Attention whores find easier prey.
Mme. Chaucer Posted September 5, 2012 Posted September 5, 2012 It's not something you should be thinking about. If she wants your attention enough to BOTHER "feigning" interest in you, she likes you. 2
phineas Posted September 5, 2012 Posted September 5, 2012 It's not something you should be thinking about. If she wants your attention enough to BOTHER "feigning" interest in you, she likes you. You'd be amazed at how far a woman will go to lead a guy on then just *poof* when her sexual talk, touching, flashing, ect reach the point where the guy thinks sex is going to happen & invites her over to his place.
Mme. Chaucer Posted September 5, 2012 Posted September 5, 2012 You'd be amazed at how far a woman will go to lead a guy on then just *poof* when her sexual talk, touching, flashing, ect reach the point where the guy thinks sex is going to happen & invites her over to his place. I'm well aware about all kinds of teasing! But honestly, the OP needs not to worry about it. It's all a crapshoot. One of the first steps is seeing signs of interest, and if he's interested too, all he can do is proceed. Also, I hope you know that some girls flirt HARD but that does not mean that "sex is going to happen," at least not right then. Flirting can be very fun, and sex can be serious business to the same people.
phineas Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 I'm well aware about all kinds of teasing! But honestly, the OP needs not to worry about it. It's all a crapshoot. One of the first steps is seeing signs of interest, and if he's interested too, all he can do is proceed. Also, I hope you know that some girls flirt HARD but that does not mean that "sex is going to happen," at least not right then. Flirting can be very fun, and sex can be serious business to the same people. Flirting hard after a month of dating & no sex = i'm getting chumped. I've learned to just not to put much thought into anymore like you mention OP should and of course the classic don't treat someone like a priority when they treat you like an option.
Mme. Chaucer Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 Flirting hard after a month of dating & no sex = i'm getting chumped. I understand. But the OP just met her. Onwards, with good intentions and hope!
xpaperxcutx Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 I find the best way to go about things is to date with the sole purpose of making her your girlfriend. If you think a relationship could be on the horizon then you pursue her, giving her all the clear signals and then dropping the official bomb. Otherwise, it's kind of moot to continuously pursuing her and giving her attention.
monkey00 Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 I was wondering, during my times of dating, I have often found myself skeptical when a woman FINALLY show interest in me, and I tend to question whether or not it's genuine or not? Often times, it turns out to be her just wanting my attention, because face it, she knew I had an interest in her, and thus she'll only PRETEND to be interested back just to keep your attention going. I just met a woman I'm into, but I just want to keep an eye out for any signs of genuine and not feigned interest. I've had questionable doubts also but not during dating. But with women I meet the first time around who are flirtatious. Like the other posters said, the easiest way to know if she keeps agreeing to go on dates with you and you actually get to kiss her without her pulling back.
phineas Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 I understand. But the OP just met her. Onwards, with good intentions and hope! In ops case time is what will tell him if she's genuine or not.
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