Jason M Posted September 5, 2012 Posted September 5, 2012 im 17 the iv been in love with this 15 year old girl, we meet through school and was dating for ten months till i ended it because i felt like my feelings dropped for her and needed space but when i broke up with her in person it killed me in side. three days later i realized that i stuffed and and still loved her and we were on the phone for like 4 hours and we fixed it she gave me a second chance and i live out of town i saw her for one day after three days of just getting back together, we were fine it felt the same again and we were happy i went home that night and i was happy as i never felt and she was the same as i rang her when i got home then 4 days later she rang me broke it off said it didnt feel right any more and she cant really see me because i live out of town but i am moving back into town to try and get her back and right now she doesnt know if we will work out again. some one please help?
Author Jason M Posted September 5, 2012 Author Posted September 5, 2012 can some one please help me!! :.(
chados Posted September 5, 2012 Posted September 5, 2012 i actually made a tread about this. my ex broke up with me though. but there are a lot of other information that im certain that people who have been her for a while would advice you to do. Its a long text. But its something that took me a very long time to learn. ill send you the link under here. anyways since you broke up with her and now you want her back. im just gonna throw it out here. i am almost 100% sure that the reason you broke up with her is because you thought you could find something better. thats a huge problem, especially for young people. you need to understand why you did this, and learn from it. im not saying that you thought, heck i might just go to a club and get the first hot girl i can see. but obviously she didnt meet your expectations. you are 17 years old. you dont know what you want in life yet. and you cant be sure she's the one for you. remember that you dumped her and its your job to get her back. If she doesnt want to see you, you gotta stay away. if she however want to see you. well take it slowly. dont get together if youre having any doubts at all. you dont wanna hurt her again. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/second-chances/344934-how-understand-what-went-wrong-why-i-moved-my-lifestory
Author Jason M Posted September 6, 2012 Author Posted September 6, 2012 thank you, but she does want to see me but she doesnt think it will work out and two guys like her, she told me she got asked out yesterday and i cant get a good night sleep i keep thinking about her and him..
chados Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 thank you, but she does want to see me but she doesnt think it will work out and two guys like her, she told me she got asked out yesterday and i cant get a good night sleep i keep thinking about her and him.. let me ask you. what do you think about her dating someone after a few days?. do you really want someone like that back?. im taking in consideration that she's 15, but come on. i dont know how many people ive explained this too. and i know that many others have done this too. this happens every day on this forum. the problem is that "you" let her go. maybe she doesnt feel needed. and going back after a few days isnt very good for neither of you two. i still think youre confused and dont know what you want. you wanted her because she wasnt there anymore, 3 days after!. you obviously want someone. but i doubt that is her. people normally realize mistakes like this after months without seeing each other. you however realized this because you were alone. get this. you dont need her to be happy. you can find someone else. i know it hurts. and i understand that it hurts like hell that she's dating someone else already, but do you know whats gonna hurt you more?, talking to her when she's seeing another guy. asking her what shes up to and then after a while see that she is together with that guy. have some respect for yourself and for her. you violated her trust. i understand why she doesnt wanna get back. but in this case , since she's only 15 i think its more then that. she's dating a new guy already. because "she" doesnt know what she wants. im not trying to be mean. but you gotta understand this. its easier for you to understand it now. then when youre a grown up like me. this is what youre gonna do. Do not call her, remove her from facebook. dont look at her pictures or anything. this is something that sounds really weird if you dont understand it. but if you do its the best way to heal. if she's with another guy already i really dont think you need to say anything to her at all. i she contacts you. then maybe you could work from there. simply stay away from her. since i dont know her and she's only 15 she could test you by saying that she's dating someone. but take it for what it is. this is something you do to heal yourself. But this is also a way to show that youre not stalking her on facebook, and that youre not chasing her. letting her decide what she wants. that is the best way to get someone back. if you start calling her she will think that you need her to live your life right now. and you dont. and if you see her. just act normal. be polite but dont ask her a bounch of stuff. then walk away. trust me, if she wants you back she will contact you. youve already said it was a mistake. by the way. she said. i wanna see you but two guys likes me?. first of all thats a weird thing to say. even one guy would be weird after a few days. but this could be a test from her. dont fall for it though. just do like i said and let her decide. and if you decide to contact her. for your own good , go to this site and ask for advice first. if you think i might be wrong, ask anyone else on this site, and people who have been in your situation. sorry for the long text. but i think its better more helpful then just a few words which would be NO CONTACT:)
Author Jason M Posted September 6, 2012 Author Posted September 6, 2012 thank you i have learn alot from what you said, and i will do it i do feel beter each day
chados Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 im glad. maybe you realized that u didnt really want her. you just didnt wanna be alone. if you decide to give it a shot. give her the chance to tell you that. dont force her too.
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