TooConfused Posted July 20, 2004 Posted July 20, 2004 Okay new dilemma, last night my husband actually paid attention to me and we were intimate. It was nice, but the whole time I pictured this "other person" with me. What is wrong with me? Yes, my husband travels alot, and sometimes he ignores me, but he's only working as hard as he is because he wants the best for our family. He has never physically or verbally abused me but the pain and agony of being alone all the time is killing me. I try and put all my energy into the kids but sometimes it just makes it worse. Especially when he comes home from a business trip and the first thing he looks for is them:( I love him, I know I do. I just don't know if I'm in love with him anymore (sounds cheesy I know). Yesterday I met my "friend" for dinner and we just talked about life. I'm not in love with this person but I sure do enjoy his company. It's nice to have someone hanging on your every word without wanting anything in return. We were co-worker friends before this and I know that we will always be friends. A few of you have given advice that I should keep it to strictly business, but sometimes we have deadlines on projects and have to stay late together. I AM SO CONFUSED. Is there a doctor on these boards?
Jols Posted July 21, 2004 Posted July 21, 2004 Hi TooConfused! It is perfectly natural for you to feel confused-like animals each person craves attention - be it friendship, sexual or any other! You have to identify what really makes you happy and go for that with everything you have! Life is too short to stay in dead-end relationships and not to live life every day as if it's the last! You need to get out and have FUN with a capital F! What is important to you? If your relationship with the other person (which I assume is a guy) is platonic, then you don't have anything to be afraid of, but you also have to be careful because there is a very thin line between platonic and more serious. Later Jols
DeeD Posted March 13, 2005 Posted March 13, 2005 Go in stages. Firstly figure out what your feelings are about you husband. If it is love but not in love you can move on and still be in his life for the sake of the kids and have a good friendship outside the relationship because you have to maintain a working relationship for the sake of the kids.. #2 Still keep in contact with your "friend" but keep it as such "friends". It is a necessity for most of us to want to be listened to and feel like the other person cares what your saying. Any way if things work out to be away from your husband you can form a new relationship with this friend if you so desire cause your main priority is dealt with then you move onto other things. But if you decide you love him and are in love with him I would say your "friend from work should be just that. A person to have coffee breaks with or a occasions lunch to catch up but leave it at that.. I dont think I said what I meant 100% clearly but hopefully you understood some of it lol
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