kenc138 Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 (edited) Hi everyone, I spent some time talking with a woman online the other night over video chat. Conversation went very well, lots of laughs, lots of questions on her part and she revealed a lot to me about her personal life. Normally I can sense when a women has a low interest level. She was the very opposite. She'll be moving out here in a few months for work, so this is not going to be anything long distance for too long. After the conversation, she wouldn't give me her number citing security concerns and said I could just contact her online. She said she wanted to move slowly and that she doesn't really know me and all that convenience. I told her rejection is part of the game, I can handle it. She said "Im not rejecting you". At this point, I figured it was probably a waste of time to continue the conversation and started trying to get off the call. She kept trying to keep me on the call. Eventually I got off the call with her, and she kept telling me to keep the details of our conversation private from people in our social circles. She claims to have divulged info to me that she never divulged to even her closest friends. The next day was complete radio silence from her. I figured she might be a little worried she talked about so many things with someone she just met, so I backed off and kept it cool so she could process things. The next day she was still silent so I decided to throw out some feelers, and she playfully engaged me back, teased in return, acted a little jealous, etc. For a week now, she continues to not engage me. If an interaction is to occur, I'm always the one to initiate it. She does reciprocate when I start things, but she'll never initiate. At what point is this just a polite way of her saying "I'm just not into you", and at what point is it "playing hard to get"? I would corner her and ask for an explanation, but I've learned over the years many women will say one thing and mean something very different even with good intention. I'm a firm believer in watching actions, not listening to words. It boggles me how often I see this in women. They'll be into you in so many obvious ways, then demonstrate completely opposite behavior the next day. Thank you all for your time Edited September 5, 2012 by kenc138
Mycteria Posted September 5, 2012 Posted September 5, 2012 You're long distance, but you got upset because she didn't contact you the next day? She said she wanted to take it slow. There's no point freaking out and talking all the time when she's not going to move close to you for another few months. You've established that there is mutual interest. So why not just wait until she moves? I can completely understand where she's coming from. It's only been a week. Chill out. Edit: I also think you sound a bit clingy (the whole "rejection is part of the game" nonsense and contacting her a lot the following week). You might push her away by doing this even if she was genuinely interested in you.
Author kenc138 Posted September 5, 2012 Author Posted September 5, 2012 You're long distance, but you got upset because she didn't contact you the next day? She said she wanted to take it slow. There's no point freaking out and talking all the time when she's not going to move close to you for another few months. You've established that there is mutual interest. So why not just wait until she moves? I can completely understand where she's coming from. It's only been a week. Chill out. Edit: I also think you sound a bit clingy (the whole "rejection is part of the game" nonsense and contacting her a lot the following week). You might push her away by doing this even if she was genuinely interested in you. Cool, thanks for the reply.
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