MarkV Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 Hi everyone,just some thoughts would be helpful. I've recently been talking and spending time with a girl that I have liked for eight years. It's now the first time that both of us have been single and we have been getting on really well. We both came out of relationships at the beginning of the year and started talking/texting etc. We have been to the beach, the lake etc and on Friday she even came to a wedding party with me. She has told me that she doesn't know what to do because her job (air hostess) means that sometimes she is away for five days at a time and that next year she may have to move closer to the airport which is two hours from here. I told her that I'd like to live in the moment and see what happens. Since then we have slept together once and affection is there but her guard is up. She's also been hurt by her ex's. We txt each other every day she is home and she's even bought me small gifts back from her work trips and made me a cd etc,small things like that. I know she likes me as I work with her mum and she said to just take it easy as she is independent and has had a lot of heartbreak. I really like this girl and don't want to mess it up or come across too keen. Her guard is coming down as she's started making small comments and compliments. I know she likes me but is scared of either her past or her future...any thoughts would be great
pteromom Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 She sounds smart to me. I'd just keep moving forward and see where the relationship takes you. Don't push her. Keep working on understanding that getting to know someone and earning their trust is a process. If she's been hurt, it may be a slower process than you'd like. Don't worry about next year. A lot could happen between now and then. The only way I would consider backing off is if you really wouldn't be ok with her being gone 5 days at a time. If that isn't a lifestyle you want, it's pointless to pursue a relationship. Otherwise - just keep going forward, one day at a time! 1
Author MarkV Posted September 5, 2012 Author Posted September 5, 2012 Thanks for your reply,that's what I was planning to do. I'm not a pushy or clingy guy but she knows I like her. I've told her that I'm ok with her job and any measure of time she can give me at the moment is great with me..let's see what happens 1
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