knowledge14811 Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 I was with her for 7 years living together! She got the 7 year itch rethought her relationship because she's a girl and has a time limit lol. 1 "First of all, Happy Birthday! I hope u have a good day. I appreciate your email, I understand where you're coming from. I hope that you say what u mean this time, I think the only way to communicate in the future is to give space and time now. I do care and love you, it's just hard to express it because I'm constantly mad at u. Please do this for me, I don't want to feel this way about you anymore. Take care," 2 "Really?! Checking my phone records again? Yeah I just started seeing someone, big ****in deal, I've been single for a year, not that I need to explain myself to you. I haven't been alternating words to protect u, I was serious when I said I wasn't dating anyone. Please just let me be, I don't don't wanna fight with you, or be a bitch or any of that.. I'm so ****in tired of this. I get sick to my stomach every time u call or text or email me, Cause I know it's just more drama..Please. Just. Stop." 3 "Why did I lose attraction? BECAUSE U DID.. U treated me like ****, I deserve better than that. That's your fault. I stuck around too long hoping u could and would change, but u didn't. Just because I go and have dinner with someone doesn't mean I'm in a relationship, way to blow **** out of proportion. U dated, what the ****? You need to accept your actions, take responsibility for them, and move forward. U have made your health decline and you need to stop that. U have pushed me away, I'm sorry but that's just how it is now... " I will never call her again. After 7 long long years. I dnt check her records anymore and I obsessive chased her n fear when she left. She says she loves me , when she's mad she wants me to leave. Ghotta love em!!
KatZee Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 Lesson to all those out there who REFUSE to stop contacting the ex when they ASK FOR SPACE. You did this to yourself, IMO.
Author knowledge14811 Posted September 4, 2012 Author Posted September 4, 2012 Well this is my first love and I never had a 7 year relationship so I had no experience. I truly believe when she is not mad she might contact me. She loves me, she has to its been almost a decade.
KatZee Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 Well this is my first love and I never had a 7 year relationship so I had no experience. I truly believe when she is not mad she might contact me. She loves me, she has to its been almost a decade. You're in denial. Which is fine, we've all been there. And believe me, she is EXTREMELY mad. I've been on the end of what you're doing, and trust me. One probably could have seen steam shooting from my ears. When someone asks to split, regardless of why, and you DON'T respect their wishes, you're just asking for it. There is a very clear progression of her first message, which obviously appears she still cares for you. Just wants time for herself to sort things out. To the second message, in which it is very clear you didn't respect her boundaries and she's getting a bit annoyed, to the third and FINAL message in which it's clear you STILL didn't stop, and now she's just done with you. This is when women put up the "bitch shield." Now she HAS to get nasty with you and essentially tell you to F-off so you'll go away. You may hear from her again. You very well may not. People walk away from year long relationships and never look back all the time. I think you're projecting YOUR feelings onto her. Sure, she may miss what you once had, but she's actively dating others. She's not looking for a friendship with you. Time to move on as if she's gone forever.
Author knowledge14811 Posted September 4, 2012 Author Posted September 4, 2012 (edited) U r right! She left me because I didn't marry her and I did treat her lil bad, probably why she stuck around so long. Every girl i treated good took me for granted and ran over ME. She is dating because she's actually never really dated. She's been with me almost her whole young adulthood! She testing other waters, maybe through all her hunting she will find that man. I will still live her, she's the most dominant relationship I've ever had. And I Hers as well. When her next relationship ends estimated 4 years if lucky or if really lucky it never ends which isn't practical I will still be there for her if she reaches out. I am not gonna wait for her nor wish her holidays or bdays but she is the love of my life. I date women now too. In fact I stopped dating because I need her to clear from my heart becaus I dislike every girl I date even the cute ones. But thk u for the input katzee She is definalely mad and she already was resentful so hey, I lose i guess Edited September 4, 2012 by knowledge14811
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