lauraryry Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 so my bf of 8 months broke up with me at the end of july. i have seen him maybe 3 times and none of which he wanted to talk about our relationship. recently i have been seeing another man and i like him alot and i have kept NC with my ex. yesterday was my bday and my ex txt me happy bday.. i didn't reply. then this morning he asked me to lunch thru txt and i said maybe.. and then he said ok well do you wanna come to the house after work and hang out? i said maybe. and he was like.. i'm off wk at 5:15.. i have no clue why he all of a sudden wants to see me other than he prob saw on fb that i had a date tag me out last night at a concert.. i figure he is just gonna ask a whole bunch of personal questions.. or something that will upset me..? what do y'all think? should i go? i'm so confused, anxious, nervous, i just want to cry already.
salmagundi Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 If the only reason he's coming around is because he got wind that your involved with someone else then I think he is not worth seeing. Imagine this. He's jealous of the new guy, he gets insecure and thinks he is about to lose you for good. While you are still single you seem to him to be available as a back up plan if he doesn't find better. He doesn't but you do. He panics and tries to get you back. You go for it, leave the other guy and go back to the ex. Then the same problems happen again and he breaks up with you again. Not only have you lost the first relationship for the second time opening all kinds of wounds but you also deprived yourself of the chance to see what could happen with the new guy. And he won't be around the second time. If he really cared about you he wouldn't wait til he is on the verge of losing you to contact you. Don't get strung along...
Author lauraryry Posted September 4, 2012 Author Posted September 4, 2012 thank you. i just don't want this to happen at all. it is such a draining feeling. not to mention that my new guy and i got into a tiff this morning about him not wanting to ever stay at my place.. he says he's more comfortable at his home.. well yeah duh! so i got emotional and cried like 3 tears and he says.. i didn't know it was such a big deal.. and i said idk how we're supposed to make this work if you won't ever come over.. and i haven't spoken to him again. idk what to do with any of this. i felt like things were coming together but apparently they aren't.. or idk.
flitzanu Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 obviously if you're still crying over your ex, you shouldn't be dating this new guy. that's kind of a big red flag.
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