leon23 Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 I know most people prefer the fade away vs. confrontation, but wondering do people do this because they also want to leave the door open to possibly coming back?
Emilia Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 Not me. I've done fade away when I thought that either I barely knew the person and didn't think we were serious enough to have some big talk or when I thought it was better to protect him because I was so pi**ed with him I would have said something I would have regretted later. Sometimes it's better to fade away than tell someone what you really think/feel. That's not completely fading away as in ignoring by the way, just slowing down the pace before confirming that it's over.
KatZee Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 Yeah, I just pulled the fade away on this one guy I met not too long ago. We had two dates and was totally not feeling it. I just stopped initiating conversation. I'll only do this when I don't know the person all that well and there really isn't much invested. I hung out with you, realized it wasn't all that... drifting off. Obviously doing this after you've been with someone for a long time is cowardly and I wouldn't and couldn't see anyone doing this in hopes of leaving the door open, I see it more as the person being too scared to actually end it with dignity.
veggirl Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 I think women are more likely to fade when they are just not interested and don't want to "hurt his feelings" and men are more likely to fade when they are not interested but yes wouldn't mind leaving the door open for fwb or whatever.
oaks Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 If it's "early" dating - eg between 0 and 4 dates - I'll probably fade away if I'm feeling just "meh" about the woman. Not dislike, just not much attraction. I don't consciously think "and now it's time to fade away" - it's not an active thing. I just find that while I might respond to a text or a call from her I'm less likely to initiate contact and less likely to enthusiastically keep a conversation (in any medium) going. If I definitely dislike someone then I don't fade... I either outright tell them, or just completely disappear. (again I'm talking about early dating. I wouldn't just vanish from a relationship.) I don't think I've ever done it to "keep the door open", but at the same time I'm not the sort of person to burn bridges or deliberately upset people unnecessarily.
phineas Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 Every woman that faded away, I let them. They each came back out of the blue after I lost weight and acted like I was the one who disappeared on them. I just end it. I tell them straight up their not what i'm looking for.
LeoNguyen Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 This reminds me of a song I heard before... "The Fade Away"
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