SoulSearcher22 Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 My ex finds me at college one day after 2 months of NC. She left me 2 months before for her ex of 3 years. We hug and talk and have a good conversation before class. After class we both hug again leave. She calls me that night and tells me that she hasn't gone a day without thinking about me. We end up texting and talking all that weekend with really flirty conversations and with our lovey dovey voices and things like that. I finally ask her if her and her bf are still together. This is what she tells me... "We are..for now. Ya never know. But if you don't want to talk to me anymore, I understand. I won't look for you tomorrow at school." But I kind of do want to keep talking to her and seeing her at school after that answer... I know it's lame and I'm allowing myself to be the "bench player" but it's not even like that anymore. I can stop talking to her or thinking about her easily now. I'm just afraid I may develope those strong feelings I had for her before we BU. Does this answer mean that her and her BF are on the verge of BU? Btw, it's a long distance relationship and their first BU was pretty nasty.
Tree_Salmon Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 She wants attention from you. My ex did the same thing with her current rebound. I played with it and eventually she wanted me back and tried to have sex with me. After I refused she went running back to her rebound. My guess is she wants you tagging along because her relationship isn't going too well. But she doesn't really care about either of you. Don't be fooled. i would make myself scarce and if she asks you why you just say you don't want to share her with anyone.
Chi townD Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 Dude, you're setting yourself up to be the OM. I would go back to NC. This chick doesn't know what the hell she wants. Time to move on and heal. Stop her playing mond games with you. 1
flitzanu Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 salmon and chi nailed it. there's no impending breakup, she just wants attention. she's over you, and wants to be your friend. 1
Calico Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 I can stop talking to her or thinking about her easily now. Is this why you spend so much thought on every word she says and contemplate the possible meanings and hidden messages?
bluefairy812 Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 sounds like she just wants to keep you "there" just in case it doesn't work with her current bf. go back to NC quickly! it sounds like she knows she can have you anytime she wants!!! not cool.
KatZee Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 I don't think it matters if there is an impending breakup or not. She'd still rather be in a mediocre relationship with the other guy, and not you. She's probably realizing things with the ex aren't so great anymore, and is looking for an ego boost. 1
Author SoulSearcher22 Posted September 5, 2012 Author Posted September 5, 2012 man...you guys are right. She started every conversation the entire weekend and flirted like crazy and things like that...then monday..nothing so I texted her and it lasted a few minutes...same with tuesday and today she was supposed to meet me at school again to hangout and chat before class..never showed. Called and texted her afterwards and got nothing. NC is beginning again right now. Sucks because this set me back some.
SandRat Posted September 5, 2012 Posted September 5, 2012 Guys like to think they are the players. Nothing could be farther from the truth. When a woman feels things are on the verge of disaster, actually much earlier, they start networking for the "backup" man. Don't fall for it man. Women THINK about their relationships more, on the whole, than men do. Men tend to just go with the flow, for the most part. 1
Author SoulSearcher22 Posted September 5, 2012 Author Posted September 5, 2012 I believe that too Sand. I just know she is going to find me at school again and chit chat. I just can't say no to her. I want this girl in my life. She's amazing. She didn't even really hurt me that bad.
Charlie Harper Posted September 5, 2012 Posted September 5, 2012 mmm if you want to suffer go ahead... be his backup... but don't make any illusions about it, she is playing you and knows how to push your buttons... Let go there a a lot of amazing persons in the world and surely if you are a good person, they will find you...
SandRat Posted September 5, 2012 Posted September 5, 2012 mmm if you want to suffer go ahead... be his backup... but don't make any illusions about it, she is playing you and knows how to push your buttons... Let go there a a lot of amazing persons in the world and surely if you are a good person, they will find you... If you take nothing else away from this thread, take this! You have no idea how many wonderful women there are out there just looking for YOU right now and you don't even know it! The perfect woman, actually probably thousands of them, are out there to be had. Really!! Kick this evil bitch to the curb! Ok, don't be mean about it just let her know she doesn't have any gain in your life anymore. Be very clear about this with her. 2
Mike_d Posted September 5, 2012 Posted September 5, 2012 friendzoned, your effed. move on, there is nothing for you here, unless you enjoy being the emotional tampon in which case you're golden 2
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