Scirok Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 Hey everyone I'm back again like the title says except with a new girl this time. I met a girl about 6 months after my last ex an we began to date she was 18 I was 23 little bit of a gap but I gave it a shot we were introduced from my friends girlfriend and right away hit it off. Things were great we enjoyed each others company we spent Alot of time together the sex life was amazing then fast forward to this summer I got offered a job at an amusement park as an EMT I figured why not I knew it was gonna be Alot of hours so I talked it over with my ex and she was ok with it well fast forward to now parks closing up end of the season and she left me she began to grow distant from me about 2-3 weeks prior to today and we started to fight about dumb things and she just wasnt being very responsive if you know what I mean no texting me like she would Or cute messages or calling me from time to time which was are normal her texts became short and with no emotion. Then came everygirls favorite sentence "I just need some space to get my head straight" been there done that I know what that means and it just really sucks. Little background on my ex she had a very bad childhood abused etc. Wont go into details and she is claiming that she is falling into a depression that she did once before. I'm not sure if this is just a way of easing breaking up with me. But some of my questions are when we were fighting and she said she wanted space and didn't know what she wanted to said to her if you don't know what you want and can't decide if you wanna be with me maybe we just need to break up and she was kind of hesitant but agreed and we did and left on decent terms that I wouldnt contact her unless she contacted Me and I would give her how ever much time she needed and she went to Work and at the completion of her work day changed her Facebook status to single ouch.... that was on Thursday fast forward to Monday yesterday I sent Her a text telling her I loved her very much and she was still on my Mind and if she wanted to talk we could instantly she fired out what I thought was a jealious remark about some girl who commented my Status that she didn't like asking if the girl liked me or hits on me etc.... Then says we will talk later so she doesn't text me later that night and I send a text saying you can call me I'm out of work no response even this morning. And I sent a few texts saying I hope we can work this out and hope she has a good first day of classes and offering to take her out to dinner. I just don't know what to do I know I'm stupid and should have stayed NC and I knew this cause of my ex but idk I'm fearful Of losing this girl and fearful she will meet a new guy or alrdy has I've spoken with Alot of her friends and they all say she doesn't have any new guys friends and they would know etc.... Idk I just wish I didn't care so much I just have such a fun time with this girl please help me
Author Scirok Posted September 5, 2012 Author Posted September 5, 2012 Thanks just wish someone could give me there opinion I'm just so mad right now and upset at the same time
Author Scirok Posted September 5, 2012 Author Posted September 5, 2012 Can someone help me please I just need some support I can't believe this happened to me again and it just hurts that she doesn't care what so ever.
SandRat Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 Have you had any professional counselling? You may want to get a "life coach" or whatever the term is. Just thinking that someone with no dog in the fight might be able to help you pin point some issues in your life that seem to make you make the wrong decisions as regards your relationships. You'd be surprised how much you can learn from a total stranger.
Calico Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 It's like Gibson said (or the link he included): The only thing you're doing "wrong" is to date women who are so young, and expect them to remain interested for the long run. Well, and you're probably too clingy, but I can't fault you for that, it's one of my chief issues, too. If she ignored three texts in a row, you just don't send a fourth on the same day or the day after, or even in the same week. Stop blaming yourself, though. Easier said than done, but at least consider that no one may be at fault and that some things are just the way they are.
Author Scirok Posted September 6, 2012 Author Posted September 6, 2012 Thanks for the advice I've met with someone before for other issues and stuff doesn't work for me just prolongs the pain of talking about it just hurts so bad seeing someone do happy when your so down and 1 week prior they were Just so happy and loving and tonight she deleted me off Facebook after not talking for a couple days just really hurt for some reason I guess cause it means she's not kidding anymore
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