dbee Posted July 20, 2004 Posted July 20, 2004 I need a little help..I am ow to a mm for 5 years..we are best friends and he has never made me feel anything but great,never demanded that i dont see other people etc. He also never said he was divorcing his wife. Well..5 years later and they are divorcing and it has nothing to do with me. REALLY!! He has told me that he wants to try to make us work,a little late after all is done. I am confused. I dont know how to deal with this. I think I love him but I never dreamed this would happen. I dont know if i could ever fully trust him. He is moving into his own home and I want to give him space and time to settle. But, I feel like i dont really know him without all that baggage and i am scared. What if he really isnt the person who I like.??? Any in-site would help..has anyone lived thru this?
Mr Spock Posted July 21, 2004 Posted July 21, 2004 Ok are you still boinking? What do you mean by a "little late?" It IS a little late, you know, to get this started......what do you want to happen? You can't buy into the "he cheated with me so I can't trust him" thing because you slept with him.....
HoldOn Posted July 21, 2004 Posted July 21, 2004 Well, his character is a little suspicious... Trust would be an issue and he should have to earn yours. But I think you should just try to start over and get to know him all over again. Don't know if you are sleeping with him now, but I think you should just try to go on a few dates and move slowly and see if you like him. Don't date him exclusively until you are ready. Try to separate this new available man from his former married self.
EC Posted July 21, 2004 Posted July 21, 2004 After 5 yrs and you don't know the man? You've been boinking the man for 5 years and now you don't know the man? I just don't understand. I think you liked the drama and excitement of seeing a married man because like I said in my other post I think OW are OW becuase among other things they are scraed of commitment. You had this relationship with the MM and now he's left his wife and wants to work things out with you. OH NO! A real relationship! Do you love this man? Do you want to be with this man?
Author dbee Posted July 21, 2004 Author Posted July 21, 2004 ok yall calm down..first, DR. Spock..i meant a little laTER>>> second no we have stopped our physical relationship until everything has calmed down..lastly I meant that I didn't know this upset, roller-coaster of emotion person..Yes I do believe I love him, but am I in love with him..is yet to be seen!!
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