MidNiteAgl Posted July 20, 2004 Posted July 20, 2004 I am dating MM. His divorce is going along smoothly. I talk to his wife a lot. They share time with their kids so I see her a lot. She is nice and polite. We seem to get a long really good. MM and I are having a great time together. But I can't seem to quit thinking, when is this going to blow up in my face. I want to build a solid relationship with this man but if I don't let go of these feelings I don't think I will be able to. Any suggestions?
miz_barby Posted July 20, 2004 Posted July 20, 2004 Well it does sound like it's going well for you since your "MM" is getting a divorce! That is GOOD shows that maybe he's serious about this relationship (Obviously). I think it will be hard for you to trust him (IF since I don't know I'm saying IF) he cheated on his wife with you, it may always be in the back of your mind that he'll do it to you. BUT if he was seperated already when you got with him and now he's getting a divorce then there probably isn't much you should worry about. Jealousy is an ugly thing, you have to realize that he's there with you because he wants to be NOT because someone is "making" him do so.
Author MidNiteAgl Posted July 20, 2004 Author Posted July 20, 2004 Thank you for your advice. The thing is we were together before he decided to get divorced. I broke it off with him because I needed to find myself and didn't want to be the OW. (I had to put an end to my broken marriage) I broke all contact with him. I went and got my own place, so I could sort out my life. MM then called x-H and told him that he was getting a divorce and wanting to talk to me again. Which I wasn't going to do but I truly love this man and decided that I wanted to give having a real relationship with him a try. His wife even called to tell me to give him a chance because she knew he loved me. That it was never about love for them. She wanted to have kids and they were friends so they got married and had kids. And this bothers me too. Because I just don't see how you could marry someone just to have kids and not love them. I mean why would someone not want to find the one they truly love and marry them. I just don't know. I am so confused. And it seems like everything is going too good and I am just waiting on something bad to happen. Maybe it's just me?
JarrodsLady Posted July 20, 2004 Posted July 20, 2004 Girl you better still watch it. This sounds a little like my OW saga (Story can be found using my former name (istilllovehim). XMM moved in with me, everything was out in the open from the beginning. When I saw that it was hurting him being so confused over the kids, I made him move out. His W called me and told me to take him back because he loved me. I did, but to make a long story short- he ended up moving back home to her in the end. It has only been 2 months and his family tells me that he still loves me and misses me but I wont even consider it anymore. That part of my life is over. I have moved on with a SG and he is wonderful wonderful wonderful (Oh did I say wonderful). So yes, it is possible that it is too good to be true but still possible to be true. Just keep your heart under lock and key right now, for your own sanity. Hey Miz-barby! Long time no talk. PM'in ya with my new email address. Hugs ((())) JarrodsLady <------- He's my SG :)
Author MidNiteAgl Posted July 21, 2004 Author Posted July 21, 2004 JarrodsLady, Thank you so much for your advice. I went and read some of your post. I am so glad that you have gotten yourself out of that destructive relationship. My MM's divorce will be final the first of next month. He is not living with me. And he didn't leave his wife to come and be with me. I had actually broke off our relationship before he left his wife. I even went as far as to have his phone number blocked. So, I had no reminders of him. This is why he called my x-H to tell him that he wanted me to get a hold of him. The only reason his called me was to give me some insight on their relationship(about it being a marriage of convenience) and she knew he loved me. She felt like she owed it to him. She never begged me to take him back. Because he already had rented himself an apartment out on his own. He still gets to see his kids just about every day. And the kids seem to be adjusting well. I just wanted to give you some insight on my relationship. But thank you so much for your comments. They are greatly appreciated.
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