Hawk12 Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 Why do dumpers Seem to want to stay in contact with the dumper after the relationship granted there was no cheating and it was a good relationship? Do they have doubts? Or just want to string you along. I have told my ex to stop texting and guess what it lasted 5 weeks.
Calico Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 Safety net? Backup plan? Habit? Caring? When I moved on from past relationships, I also felt bad for the other person and wanted to be there. Just because I didn't want to be with them anymore didn't mean I stopped caring. Today, I would not do this, but this was before I experienced what it is like to get dumped.
Regrets58 Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 Agree with Calico,lots of reasons for Dumpers to break nc. Some of the reasons are selfish,others with best of intentions but misguided. Think the main thing to stress,is that the contact doesn't mean they want you back. It is so very hard not to answer them.Am afraid I did and the cycle started again. Has made me view BU's in a different light. Hope I never have to be a dumpee or dumper again,but if so will act very differently.
Jono85 Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 meh, i'm on the opposite side and i wish i were in your shoes. guess the grass is always greener. told my ex 'not to bother with me anymore please' and went on to say i couldn't comprehend certain things and how should could just be content with the way things had gotten (casual talks every few days) - and this was during a period where she was to come to a decision whether she wanted to try things again with me or not (she was on a month long trip and supposed to figure things out, but i couldn't take it anymore mid trip as i realized things just weren't right - and well she just never even responded to that text, and still hasn't contacted me (1.5 months now). it hurts a ton. like wow, that's all it took. for me to say don't bother with me anymore cuz it hurt for us to be that way, and she just literally stopped bothering with me as if i meant absolutely nothing to her and she was just keeping me in her life b/c she felt bad or something. it's f*cked. right now i feel IF she ever contacts me again i can never reply. she never gave me proper closure. or even a goodbye. just didn't respond. bah, oh well.
TaraMaiden Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 Why do dumpers Seem to want to stay in contact with the dumper after the relationship granted there was no cheating and it was a good relationship? Do they have doubts? Or just want to string you along. I have told my ex to stop texting and guess what it lasted 5 weeks. Mainly to ease their own conscience, rather than empathise with your own pain... Read the Caliguy No Contact Guide in my sig., it's all explained there..
Author Hawk12 Posted September 4, 2012 Author Posted September 4, 2012 Thanks everyone I guess she has also been asking my friends what iv been doing, if I hooked up with anyone ect ect... Then starts texting me. Just kind of confused.
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