whatwhit Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 So a few weeks I began talking to a new guy. We didn't meet until about a week and a half after conversing over the internet. I know it isn't safe but we met at his apartment. He was just one of those guys I felt comfortable with from the get go. You know, I felt like I've known him forever even though we've only known each other for a short time. I felt like the date went really well, he stated that he liked me. When 11:11 hit I told him to make a wish eventually he told me he wished that he would be able to get to see me again. We kissed good night, and that was that. Texted him when I go home, and he said to text him the next day to see about hanging out. So I texted him but he didn't wake up til super late the next day. We played a bunch of phone tag until about midnight. He said he wasn't drunk, but I kind of thought he was. He was practically BEGGING me to go over to his place. Almost to the point of being annoying. I don't know where my bootie call radar went cause I guess I left it at my door. It didn't even really occur to me that that was the reason he wanted me over, and maybe he didn't I don't know. So, I get there and he's in a shirt, and his boxers. Apologizes for his attire. I was in my pjs. We just hung out for a bit before going to bed. We kissed, and he didn't really try to do anything farther except bitting (which hurt a lot). But we went to bed. He kept telling me how I should skip work the next day. I slept awfully cause he snores/ I'm not good with cuddling cause I get hot so I went to the living room. Came back and the next day arrived. Told him I had to go and he was like noo. But I had to drive him to his car. He told me to text him when I got off work, and he kissed me goodbye. Texted him during the day around 1ish, got no reply, called him at 6 no answer, called him around 9 no answer. Didn't hear from him today. What could've happened?!? What do you do when a guy ignores you? Should I wait a little bit and be like, "I thought we had a mutual interest, but I guess I read the cards wrong. I hope you find what you're looking for I thought you were a great guy"? His birthday is tomorrow should I wish him happy birthday?!? What do you think?? Also: He told me he deactivated his fb, but I found it...last updated in may and then yesterday. IDk if that has to do with anything but maybe. Thanks for reading
january2011 Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 I think that the most mundane answer is that he lost interest/changed his mind about you. You've tried to contact him ar least three times now with no response. The ball is in his court to get back to you. However, I'd move on. And no, don't wish him a happy birthday. If he contacts you to ask you to come over again and your interest levels remain high, perhaps suggest an outside date instead. However, in my opinion, he'd need to be a lot more frequent in his communication to be given a second chance. Dropping off the face of the earth without explanation so early on is not a good sign of his having high interest in you. If he had time to update his FB, he had time to at least send you a quick text. That's a pretty solid indication where his priorities lie. 1
LeoNguyen Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 whatwhit, Let's take a step back. You've just met each other. Most guys are on their "best behavior" at least on the first few dates. You've only met him once or twice and you're having to deal with the DRUNK DIAL already? And the the lie about the Facebook account. Damn. This guy has trouble written all over him. I know you REALLY want to make it work with him. And you might even jump on the opportunity if he decides to come back. You can stay way from him (no emails, no contacts, no meetings) and save yourself a lot of heartache that are sure to come, or give in to the temptation right now.
KatZee Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 Hm, well you met him roughly 2 weeks ago, you met, kissed, he invited you over for a very clear booty call... didn't get anything, and now he really has no use for you since you didn't show interest/put out. You met him on the internet. He's not looking for anything serious.
LeoNguyen Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 There are guys who there who will treat you with respect, who are attentive to you, and who wants to make you happy. Don't settle for the guy who can't even provide you that.
SmileFace Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 What exactly are you expecting from something like this? 1
snowflakes88 Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 What exactly are you expecting from something like this? This. You haven't even been on a real date with this man. I would absolutely stop contacting him.
Author whatwhit Posted September 4, 2012 Author Posted September 4, 2012 I guess, when we are wanting a relationship, and we see a guy who has a lot of the same interest that you do..and you connect really well. you put the love shades on...so it obvious that I missed a lot of cues. Sucks. Seemed like a nice guy... guess I was wrong.
mortensorchid Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 This is a ridiculous situation to be sure. The first as well as the second encounter was crazy. Chuck it up to "one of those weird things" and move on.
It's Just Me Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 And I'm starting to think that this website is a repository for losers with oddball experiences lacking normal social coping skills. Got good advice about my cat in the Water Cooler section, but that's about it. Holy cow. 1
LeoNguyen Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 And I'm starting to think that this website is a repository for losers with oddball experiences lacking normal social coping skills. Got good advice about my cat in the Water Cooler section, but that's about it. Holy cow. Why are you calling the OP a loser?
Author whatwhit Posted September 4, 2012 Author Posted September 4, 2012 because it's the internet. people feel more entitled to bring people down because they are hidden behind a screen name. don't worry that comment didn't phase me one bit.
KatZee Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 Why are you calling the OP a loser? I think she called us ALL losers.
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