O'farrell Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 Like they really want you. They are pursuing you all the time. But they aren't really anything special, just an average guy. Do you give him a chance because you like to feel wanted? Keep in mind he has an average job and average looks.
LeoNguyen Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 Like they really want you. They are pursuing you all the time. But they aren't really anything special' date=' just an average guy. Do you give him a chance because you like to feel wanted? Keep in mind he has an average job and average looks.[/quote'] Whoa. I'm a guy but I'll just throw my 2 cents in here. Women do want average guys. It happens all the time. That's how we have 7 billion people today on this planet. And while a man may think another man is average, his lady will look at him and say he's the most wonderful human being in the world. Happens all the time. Kinda like when a mother looks at her son, and thinks he's the greatest ever. What's more important is why you needed to ask this question in the first place. Some might say you need to be more confident. And they're half right. I just say you need to be more confident with women. I'm sure you kickass in other things that most people fail to do. You just need to channel that confidence and energy to women. How? Get results. Make a woman smile. Make her laugh. Make her feel good to be around you. Make her like you. It doesn't seem big, but it'll go a long way if you keep building on it.
TLY22 Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 Nope. Unless I have feelings for the guy, I let them know that I'm not interested. It's not right to let someone chase you around thinking they have a shot just because you 'feel wanted'. That's shallow and deceitful. Feeling wanted has no meaning to me. I either like the guy, or I don't.
threebyfate Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 Firstly, wouldn't matter what he looked like or did, as an occupation. As a married woman, he'd annoy the crap out of me since aggressive pursuit behaviour pushes my boundaries hard.When I was single, unless I was attracted to him, aggressive pursuit behaviour would annoy me since he wasn't respecting my boundaries of disinterest. Now if I was attracted and single, he wouldn't need to aggressively pursue. 2
GirlontheLam Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 I am only interested in people I feel a connection with. It isn't flattering to have someone chase me that I am not interested in. Compliments are OK though.
Mme. Chaucer Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 I think it's odd that you, OP, left the question of whether the woman was attracted to the persistent fellow completely out of the equation. That is what makes pursuit welcome, if you are single and looking. And it's highly possible to be attracted to an "average" guy. Also to be revolted by a "hot" guy with a fancy job. Whatever, the guy should learn how to take a hint and move on if the woman turns him down.
Mycteria Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 No I don't like it at all, especially after I have dropped multiple hints that I am not interested. I don't like directly turning people down. It makes me feel like complete crap.
january2011 Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 Assuming that I'm single at the time, if there's no attraction at my end then I'd find it tedious and bordering on stalkerish, depending on the level of aggression. If he was very aggressive, I'd even go so far as to say that it might feel frightening and I'd feel unsafe. I know people close to me who have been stalked before and it's a really traumatic experience that can have lasting and detrimental effects on one's mental health and quality of life. If a woman asks you to stop pursuing her, you must stop.
LeoNguyen Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 O'farrell, I want to point out that most of the women in this thread don't like a guy who is creepy and stalkerish. Understandable. If you just come across as a normal guy who's got a crush on someone, you will rarely run into this problem. Persistence pays. I know a friend who ended up marrying his high-school sweetheart. She was practically the high-school prom queen. Him? Average height. Average looks. Quirky personality. Can easily rub people off in the wrong ways (even to this day), but he's a good man. But there's one thing he got more than anything else, persistence. Again, you're not going to get every single women to like you just by being persistence. You will even piss some of them off. And that's okay. Can't please everyone. And you certainly can't hate a guy for trying.
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