Trusted Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 (edited) First Post Here! Hopefully this is the right forum. My questions are... where do I go from here? Do I have a shot with her? Should I give up? I was in a relationship for 2 years with my girlfriend. We bought a house within 6 months of dating, talked about marriage around that time too, talked about a baby, etc. Shortly after buying the house, we took in my half brother (drug dealing/gang member) to help him straighten up his life. Big risk considering I have a 7 year old daughter 50% of the time, but we did it. During this time my father and mother (divorced) and brother lied, manipulated, etc. Unfortunately my parents have been emotionally abusing me for many years and I basically became a puppet to whatever they said. Gist is that I would take my parents side, opinion, etc over hers on everything. Girfriend and I went to counseling together as we would fight constantly, but eventually she broke it off with me. At the time that she left, I had this epiphany of sorts. I realized that both my parents were in one way or another, toxic for my life and therefore could no longer be part of it. So I basically told them what needed to be changed if they wanted to be in my life. Nothing changed. I've spent the last 10 months becoming who I want to be without having to worry about the guilt trips, controlling stuff, etc. I'm finally happy with who I am. But...I no longer have contact with my family (I talk to one cousin), my best friend moved several states away, and I lost the love of my life. So with no one to talk to or lean on... I come to this board of strangers! She still texts and emails me sometimes(every couple weeks). We've talked about hooking up but she never is willing to follow through. We still own the home together(she doesn't live here) and her car together. She still emails my daughter back and fourth sometimes. She's been with a few guys, I've been with no one. She has said, if it wasn't for my parents, we would have made it and been good(said within last couple months). But...she won't see me, talk to me on the phone, and her family hates me(she's a big family person). I wished her a happy bday 8 mths after the breakup, do I get in touch with an email on our Anniversary? Am I stupidly dragging this out and making it harder? Thanks for the help! Edited September 3, 2012 by Trusted
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