tkgirl Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 but I don't want him back in my life! here's a quick history: we were in a serious relationship (lived together etc) many years ago.. after years of not talking at all we somehow reconnected and we're sort of "friends".. not really but every once in a while we just check in with each other.. like old friends do. We had both moved on though, he got married... I was in another relationship.. so jump to now.. he's going through a tough time, wife wants a divorce and is going after full custody of their two daughters.. not sure the whole story and to be honest I kind of don't care.. I left him for a reason too and there's no way I'd want to be with him either.... so now he's been texting me every day about how he's doing, having a good day then gets sad then... but seriously, I don't care! I mean, I'm not that cold because I don't want anyone to be sad...but it's really not my problem and I feel like he thinks he can wiggle his way back into my life and that's the last thing I want! he pretty much is a downer and I don't want that energy around me... plays the victim when I'm pretty sure it's something he f'd up... I don't know for sure though... anyho... the last couple texts I've pretty much ignored... I guess I'm feeling a little guilty because I know he's going through a hard time and needs a friend... but I can't (don't want to) be that friend... any advice on what to do? thanks!!!
head/heels Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 You need to let him know that you understand it is a trying time for him but that you are not comfortable in the role you are playing. Suggest that he get help from a counselor or make new friends. Tell him that you have moved on and even being friends at this point doesnt work for you. 1
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