barkly Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 hi, first time poster here, in a nutshell i have been great friends with a great girl for 28 years, in all this time one or other of us has been in a relationship with someone else, i'm single now and see has a very on/off thing going on with her ex. i have very strong feeling towards her and am wondering if i should just tell her how i feel and see what happens advice please Barkly
soccerrprp Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 You must know that if she does not reciprocate that you could lose your friendship. It's really simple, are you willing to risk losing your friendship? If yes, go for it, if not, then don't. I think the worst thing is having never known if it could have worked. Personally, I would go for it... With that said, you should really be weary of making it known when she is clearly in midst of some precarious relationship with her ex. I think this type of thing is best done when she is truly free and clear. 1
Author barkly Posted September 3, 2012 Author Posted September 3, 2012 thanks for the reply' i think our friendship can survive, its amazingly strong and has been thru a lot over a long time. i dont want to end up in years to come wondering "what if" i dont know if she feels the same, i think she stays in the other relationship because its there, she says she will break it up if something better happens for her and that it fills a need at the moment
ambivalentwish Posted September 16, 2012 Posted September 16, 2012 You must know that if she does not reciprocate that you could lose your friendship. It's really simple, are you willing to risk losing your friendship? If yes, go for it, if not, then don't. I think the worst thing is having never known if it could have worked. Personally, I would go for it... With that said, you should really be weary of making it known when she is clearly in midst of some precarious relationship with her ex. I think this type of thing is best done when she is truly free and clear. I agree with soccerprp says. If you truly feel your friendship is enduring and can survive then I say go for it and confess. Beforehand though make sure you weigh out the pros and cons and be over 100% certain that you're willing to risk your friendship in hopes that you can start something more with her. I'm actually a little concerned about her on/off relationship though...she may not be ready to give up on it.
JamieSpruson Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 What's the best way to tell a girl how you feel about her?
phasmif Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 Have you ever had an inkling she feels the same? 28 years is a long time so it depends whether it would sabatage the friendship. As for the on off thing you must find out where that stands before doing anything.
Charles Grey Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 hi, first time poster here, in a nutshell i have been great friends with a great girl for 28 years, in all this time one or other of us has been in a relationship with someone else, i'm single now and see has a very on/off thing going on with her ex. i have very strong feeling towards her and am wondering if i should just tell her how i feel and see what happens advice please Barkly Telling her how you truly feel about her is the best thing that you need to do because you have been friends for over 28 years now and I bet you know her really well. With regards to her answer, just be sure that you are prepared for whatever answer she will give...
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