steelgator Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 So yesterday i was sitting in my room browsing LS when my friend said that a group of our friends are going to the bar for sunday funday. I figured hey tomorrow's labor day and maybe just MAYBE i could possibly meet a girl there instead of sitting here pining over my ex on LS. So for the first hour and a half im actually having a really good time talkin with my friends and not worrying about my ex when a girl that I had known of but never really talked to approached our table. She said she knew of me as well. I was able to get her number in about 2 minutes. She began texting me immediately telling me I was cute and she wants to talk to me and hopes that I'm not just drunk. So she just tells me to text her tomorrow if i'm really interested. I plan on texting her in a couple hours. ^^THIS is a real second chance fellas and gals. Go out and socialize. As down as you may feel you have to tell yourself you will not be kept down. I honestly thought it'd be months before I found someone interested in talkin to me. I had to force myself to get off this forum and join my friends for some drinks but i had a great time and met a cute girl in the process. 1
Emilia Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 I think the issue isn't so much talking to someone new, it's having sex with them and getting depressed because that reminds you of the ex too much. Beware
Author steelgator Posted September 3, 2012 Author Posted September 3, 2012 I am not planning on anything with this girl. I want to talk to her and get to know her and whatever happens happens.
Emilia Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 Just make sure it's not too soon. That's not to discourage you from moving on, in theory your approach is spot on.
fucpcg Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 I think the issue isn't so much talking to someone new, it's having sex with them and getting depressed because that reminds you of the ex too much. Beware Guess you and I are the same there. When people in here post these threads about "I went out and talked to people of the opposite sex today and everything is great now I don't miss my ex", I have to laugh. Either (1) there wasn't any real relationship between you and your ex and/or (2) just wait.... when the distraction is over, the memories of the ex won't be. I know I am still in love with my ex, 1.5 years later. About a half a year after our breakup I had sex for first time since her, and it was with my ex ex before her. Me and ex ex always had amazing sex together, so I was expecting a fun romp in the sheets to finally give me a distraction from the breakup. IT WAS A DISASTER! It all went so horrible because it wasn't the girl I love, it wasn't the stuff we did together, it reminded me the only reason I was with this girl is because I can't be with ex, on and on and on. I went back to not dating again after that night, it was obviously way to soon.
Coyoteloco Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 lol that sucks man, i dont want to hear that kind of thing it makes me feel depressed, we are the ones getting hurt, we are the ones who have to suffer and go through this, while they just dont give a **** :/ its like when will things start working out for the dumpee, is life fair?
Simon Phoenix Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 Yeah, it's a great temporary thing to meet new people, but unless they are someone you get into an LTR with, you are still going to think about your ex. I met a whole bunch of women right after I went out the outs with the last girl I was dating, but it didn't really do much to alleviate feelings I had toward my old one. That comes on its own and other women (or men in the reverse case) are just temporary solutions. In fact, it can be easier to meet others right after a break because you don't really care what impression you are making with new matches because you are still hung up on the old one.
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