Dont know which step to take

[domple]

Hey Everyone,

 

Have been dating this girl for a few months (known her for almost a year. Basically she told me early on that she was in a bad relationship and was abused and raped almost 7 years before. She has had time to heal and has moved on from that. Everything was going great butthen 2 weeks ago she went cold. Still hung out but was not the same.

 

You see a few weeks beforehand she went into hospital and had an operation on her overies. She has slowly been recovering and things were looking up. Then we hung out on friday night at her place and on saturday morning she had all this fear in her eye and sai i want you close and I am afraid of you. Now you see I have never been abusive but am actually quite caring. I was like what in the world.

 

We had a chat she was beign irrational. Turns out that the doctor gave her these hormones and medication after the surgery to do with her cycle and she ended up just being irrational and said I want to be with someone else (a male friend) and then said no i dont. I know she was doped up on hormoes as her brest size has gone from a standard B cup to a D cup (no weight gain just her brests).

 

We spoke on the phone last night as I confronted her and said you can not keep me at arms length and aske WTF was happenieng. She told me various things and believes in teh meds shes on as she said that this has never happened before. She advised that she has lowered her meds (this is a temp issue) and that she was slowly comming back to normal.

 

She said she might need a few days to a week to calm down and that I can contact her and talk but she said shes is filled with anxiety, depression and stressed out for no reason and doesnt want any pressue from anywhere and is apparently locking herself in her house.

 

Now part of me is like this is nuts and I want to leave her but she kept telling me to hang on and that things would be fine when the meds and hormoes have lowered.

 

Today via MSN I tried to talk and I asked how she was and we talked a little BUT when I said look did you want to meet up she bascially made an excuse for the whole week. Now I understand she is going though something and I dont want to push her so I said I cant handle this and said for her to contact me when shes ready.

 

It sucks because she is the first girlfriend where I know she really does love me and she and I had been talking about building a life together. I dont know what to do. I want to give her time but my fear is that after a week she will say "naa still not ok not gonna work bye". I know i cant do anything I just dont know what to do.