StellaA Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 Well I haven't been on here for a while. Some of you may know from prev posts, my ex of 6 years broke up with me after being sectioned and poss Bipolar! I had to give up my flat, everything. I also had to move all the furniture and store it in my parents garage. We got back together for a couple of months but I found it too hard to forget some of the things that had happened and looking back it was too soon to give things another go. My trust had gone and I was in fear of it all happening again. It broke my heart as I still love him but I had to get my head straight and out me first for once. 3 months down the line of no contact he texts me to ask if he can pick our bed up from me as he has moved and needs a new one. At first I was sad as it was the first time I had heard from him, made me feel funny. The upset as I could not handle seeing him. I dropped it round his mums as I could not cope with seeing him. My family thought it was insensative of him to ask for it and should have just got himself another bed rather than contacting and upsetting me. He doesn't know he upset me...but wouldn't he realise this? Am I over reacting or right to feel like this. He asked for it like it meant nothing and was even happy to come pick it up! I should know by the way he was before that he does not think like I do about things and how upsetting it is...now after 3 months I feel upset again. It was 'our' bed, why would he want it. My family have said it is another thing out of the way.
Mint Sauce Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 there's no right or wrong here (how cliche). I'd be just as sensitive as you are about this, but clearly for many people these are just things and for them they have no emotional value. This is a good indication you should move on and look for someone with a similar sensitivity in life.
Author StellaA Posted September 3, 2012 Author Posted September 3, 2012 Good point Mint........I guess he will never change, your right, this was one of the thigns that I did not like, he would never realise what effect it had on me so yeah, I do need to find someone who does! I guess because he was my first love and we had been together so long I kinda thought this was the way relationships worked but looking back.....I have learnt a lot! I hope one day someone will show me what true love and kindness is
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