4 year relationship breakup :(

[shyguy1980]

i have broken up with my gf of 4 years it was a long distance relationship first 2 years i use to go down to see her every weekend then she come to move in with me in the last 2 years of the relationship in this time i noticed change in her moodyness i couldnt say anything right. she hasnt had a job in the whole time i been with her i paid for everything and so did my mum i even paid for a holiday to egypt for her and me. she went home last month because she said she wanted to see family and while txting her i noticed differences txtes were 2 everyday not as much and toward the end of her coming back textes didnt even have i love u just kisses. i tried calling her the night before she was suppose to come back and she didnt answer until a text the next morning saying she cant do this anymore. so i was a little upset and angry because the amount i done and gave to her and i never said for her to move in it was her choice after a few messages from her and saying shes worried and scared and feels sorry for me because i only have my mum in my life no other family we spoke on the fone she wanted to be freinds and i said i didnt know where this relationship was going now and she said she didnt like the person she was becoming at my house i said for no contact because i was so angry and hurt i also couldnt handle if she found someone else. after saying no contact it went 3 days and then she text me at night saying i know i shouldnt text but i miss you so i left till i replied till the morning saying glad u texted and missing u lots she then replied 2 hours later saying im sorry which is so confusing to me and makes no sense. as i said before its been 9 days since she last texted and i noticed on her facebook shes going out chatting with this other guy aswell at night so shes busy now and hasnt bothered with me i just feel so hurt confused used lonley and lost its been a month not seeing her and 9 days no contact i keep feeling the need to send her a message saying miss u or something but i feel i havent done anything wrong

[I'm nuts]

You probably haven't done any thing wrong, but today we live in a throw away society and you might be a victim of that.

 

There is so much temptation out there from crap like fakebook and other crap dating sites etc where it is easy to meet other fake throw away people, get chatting to them and think they are the best thing since sliced bread, the make the person who loves you for a long time appear to be boring and staid and this new hunk seems great fun.

 

Sadly this is modern life, nothing lasts, we just want the next big thing, I blame apple and facecrap.

[shyguy1980]

ur right im just suprised how quick shes got over me i noticed she txted she missed me when she was bored. then she got her brothers ipad and been using that she hasnt bothered with me for 9 days i keep feeling the need to message her or call her but i dont want it to go to her head and boost her ego something in me says to leave it if she loved u she would message me even if i said no contact and she said she wouldnt message me anymore because she didnt want to make it harder for me because i dont have much

[I'm nuts]

'I miss you' has no meaning, people take it literally, they don't miss you, they miss their ego being massaged, nothing more.

[shyguy1980]

i just keep thinking maybe shes waiting for me to message her to show i care because she made the first move last time i guess i should leave it and accept its over guess shes immature. also annoys me she expected me to entertain her and make her life exciting when she didnt work the whole 4 years and i was up at 5:30am working to keep a roof over my head dont think she understand the real world

[I'm nuts]

Most of them don't, the wake up call is getting married, paying bills, mortgage, then reality hits big time and all the fairy stories jump back in the book.

 

I love reality, takes years to work it all out though:laugh:

[shyguy1980]

so true thanks for ur messages wot would ur advice be should i just leave it and not bother i guess i would regret txting her after 9days of her not bothering

[I'm nuts]

I would never waste my time on anyone that didn't want me, spoke to other blokes, sent them pictures, texts, life is to short to waste goodness on rotten apples, ignore her and find a good woman.