andymb79 Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 I'll keep this as short as possible. So my gf of four years left me about two months ago. (I have some previous threads). It was out of nowhere and been nc for a month. We lived together for a year and a half. I never really knew why she left until today. I was talking to a friend today and my ex got brought up. My friend mentioned that my ex has a new boyfriend. It was news to me but I knew it would happen sooner or later. A week prior to the breakup, my now ex told me she had an old high school friend coming to town to visit. A guy. She swore he was just a friend and I trusted her. The went to a family BBQ that day and hung out at her house after. She was living with her mom at that time because of a fight we had. I coundnt go because I had to work. Later that night I spoke to her on the phone and she said the guy was spending the night. Again she swore he was just a friend and he was stepping on the couch. I foolishly trusted her and let it be because I knew he was leaving the next day. Anyway, I learned today that she is now dating that guy. I was doing very good with everything and even met someone new the other day. When I heard this news it made my blood boil. I know I don't want her back but how could she be "happy" with me one day and leave for him the next? I was good to her and provided for her. We had so much history. I have a gut feeling she will try to run back to me later and I can't wait tell her where to go. Sorry for venting but I'm just mad. As soon as I heard the news I wanted to text her but didn't. (don't have her number anymore). Thanks for reading. What do you think?
Agni Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 That's so crappy. I'm sorry. I'm pissed on your behalf. People are unpredictable and don't know how much they can hurt others. I have a friend who was your ex in your situation. Ie My friend suddenly broke up with her boyfriend of a year with no real explanation. The truth was she had met another guy. Moreover, the two dudes went to school together, so it's likely the ex eventually found out. The outcome?: The guy she left her boyfriend for turned out to be a total jerk and used her. Her ex-boyfriend, who never spoke to her again (even though she tried to reach out to him because she wanted to be friends), ended up losing weight, transforming his body, doing awesome in school, made new friends. He handled it like a champ, even though I knew he was a wreck inside but worked it out. In the meantime, my friend is still single and getting over both guys. So to me, that's an example of where leaving things alone, not confronting, and just being awesome are the best way to move forward. I believe the good and the integritous always win in the end.
Author andymb79 Posted September 3, 2012 Author Posted September 3, 2012 Thanks for the reply. It just hit me hard. I'm ready to get over it and better myself.
Consultant Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 Hey Andy, Exact same thing happened to me. Relationship of 4+ years ended with the real reason being another guy that she knew from college. This stuff happens, and I am currently feeling your exact pain (with ironically the exact same timing). At the very least, I bet you didn't move to another city and were not engaged to this girl (that is my situation). When you are getting down, just think to yourself "it could always be worse and at least I didn't marry her". Even if she comes back, stay strong and reject her advances. You don't need people that close to you who find you so easily disposable.
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