lovemytsx Posted July 20, 2004 Posted July 20, 2004 I posted in a prvious thread about how the guy I was seeing is having a dilema becuase he thinks he wants to get back with his ex. So anyway, I decided not to pursue him anymore and we agreed to be friends for now. So here's the thing. We made plans on Thursday to meet up Saturday becuase he was going to help me pick something up with his truck. Saturday rolled around and I didn't hear from him. It's now Monday night, and I have still not heard from him. I have left him a couple messages, and even a note on his door, but still nothing!!! Today I happened to see him at the gas station, and as soon as he saw me walking out of the grocery store (a few hundred yards away), he parked his truck at the back, trying to "hide". I couldn't get over there fast enough to say something. I just don't get it. How can you tell someone you want to be friends and then make plans with them and aviod them. Why would a guy do that? I have now left him a message appealing to him to call me just so I know what the heck is going on. The weird thing is that the few weeks we were together, it was great. We talked about everything (and I mean everything), and we are so compatible. I still have feelings for him, but right now I just want to be friends. On the Thursday that I called him we also made plans for tomorrow night to play baseball and then go to a concert. I don't want to seem like a pshco and keep calling him. Any suggestions???
clia Posted July 20, 2004 Posted July 20, 2004 have now left him a message appealing to him to call me just so I know what the heck is going on. Honey, you know what's going on. He isn't returning your calls, he stood you up, and he's avoiding you. Move on. You are acting psycho.
Author lovemytsx Posted July 20, 2004 Author Posted July 20, 2004 yes, but we live in a very small town and we have some mutual friends, so he will not be able to avoid me forever. why would he just at least nit pick up the phone and tell me he doesn't want to see me for a couple of weeks?
Girlie Posted July 20, 2004 Posted July 20, 2004 Do yourself a favor and don't try to understand it. For whatever reason, he's blowing you off. Maybe he got with the ex and she didn't like the idea of him being friends with you. Maybe he's just a jerk. Who knows. But whatever the reason, you don't need that. Don't make yourself look bad by trying to force an explanation. Just throw your hands up in the air and walk away. I know that's easier said then done, but try it. It's better in the end.
Gianna Posted July 20, 2004 Posted July 20, 2004 Originally posted by lovemytsx I posted in a prvious thread about how the guy I was seeing is having a dilema becuase he thinks he wants to get back with his ex. So anyway, I decided not to pursue him anymore and we agreed to be friends for now. So here's the thing. We made plans on Thursday to meet up Saturday becuase he was going to help me pick something up with his truck. Saturday rolled around and I didn't hear from him. It's now Monday night, and I have still not heard from him. I have left him a couple messages, and even a note on his door, but still nothing!!! Today I happened to see him at the gas station, and as soon as he saw me walking out of the grocery store (a few hundred yards away), he parked his truck at the back, trying to "hide". I couldn't get over there fast enough to say something. I just don't get it. How can you tell someone you want to be friends and then make plans with them and aviod them. Why would a guy do that? I have now left him a message appealing to him to call me just so I know what the heck is going on. The weird thing is that the few weeks we were together, it was great. We talked about everything (and I mean everything), and we are so compatible. I still have feelings for him, but right now I just want to be friends. On the Thursday that I called him we also made plans for tomorrow night to play baseball and then go to a concert. I don't want to seem like a pshco and keep calling him. Any suggestions??? Let me tell you out of what I learned growing up in relationships. If the guy is not jumping to answer the phone when you call or calling you he has no plans of keeping you around. Just so you know, he sounds like the type that will make plans with you on the phone and then not be around, because its an easy way to avoid the situation of being a man and just telling you. Even though in your head you keep calling to find out why he is doing this, it does make you look pshco and needy. Men don't like that. For future reference, if you are getting blown off by a guy , Call once and then leave it alone. Dont be like the majority of the women in the world who make excusses for why they're being treated like dirt. Plus, I promise you he'll be back. It might be a couple days, or a couple years, but trust me, they always come back (more then likely,if you move on and he comes back,you won't want him anymore).
Whoahhgirl Posted July 20, 2004 Posted July 20, 2004 I have to agree....you're taking this too far. You were together for only a few weeks? Stop calling. As it was said, if he hasn't returned your calls by now, he probably won't. If he wants to talk to you, he will make contact with you...not avoid you. He'a avoiding you for a reason. If you keep pestering him, you're only going to irritate him.
August Posted July 20, 2004 Posted July 20, 2004 I know this is hard. I've been there, too, but the advice everyone else is giving you is correct. Back off, and leave it alone. If you run into him somewhere, be nice, smile, then look at your watch and say something like "Nice seeing you, but I've got to run". The secret is don't let him think you "need" him. If guys think you are needy, it scares them and they run. And if there has been chemistry between you before, he will come back, like the other person also said, if you back off and don't chase him. Guys like the challenge of the hunt. You need to get the book entitled Why Men Love Bitches. The author gives this example: If a man goes hunting and kills a moose, he will proudly display the moose head on his wall and tell people the story of the hunt. If someone were to drop that same moose right on his front door step, it would mean nothing to him and he would never display it on his wall or anywhere else! See the difference? Make him come after you. You can do it, girl! Good luck!
Author lovemytsx Posted July 23, 2004 Author Posted July 23, 2004 well, he finally called yesterday and we talked for a while. he said he didn't call becuase he didn't know what to say, but he still want sto hang out, be freinds, blah blah blah. so then he calls today and asks me to go boating, and i said ok. so he said he'd call me in an hour or so and he did. so then he said he was going to call me in 45 minutes and come pick me up (on the boat dock), and i haven't heard from him since, and it's now almost 3 hours later. plus he said he "promised he's call in 45 minutes". what the hell gives?
Curt Posted July 23, 2004 Moderators Posted July 23, 2004 Unless there's an almost "cosmic" reason for what he's doing, KICK HIS ASS TO THE CURB He's not treating you with respect. Tell him to go jerk around some other girl. Curt
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