angelickricket Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 Ok i was married to this man for seven years he got mixed up in drinking getting high and ephedrine pills by hand fulls. He was abusive then and had girls dancing on his lap in his partys as i raised his two babies and carried the third. I knew i had to get him away from the step father pulling him under before something real bad happen. I took the kids and left when he started going out at night staying gone and brothers girlfriend said she slept with him. He called me and said he loved me to come back, then the whole time he had a girlfriend well she told him that she was pregnant to keep him. Now thats been 14years ago. Well he came into my life again a year and a half ago, we have been sleeping with eachother and he swares she and he has not been sexual for years. Now, he has been living with me all week, goes and says at her house for weekend to see kids which are not given his last name nor is he on certificate. He said she will take the kids if he goes, shes abusive and i wouldnt want that. So he wo nt leave, ive got text and pictures anso on that would send her down, should i hurt her like she did me? I just dont want the children hurt. They know about me and came and stayed at my house, the oldest wants to live with me. What a challege, i so want her to hurt.
MissBee Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 All of this is a mess. Why do you even want him back????? She didn't hurt you...he did. He is the one who slept around and cheated on you with another woman. It's been 14 years, why would you go back to that? This man seems like a complete bum. Why is he living at your house? Tell him to go home to this woman.... Even if you hurt her by telling her what happened...it really is him who is hurting her. He has cheated on BOTH of you. You with her and her with you.... It really saddens me when a druggie, partying, for all intents and purposes, bottom of the barrel man, gets more than one woman to have his kids and then spend time competing over him smh. We have to do better. Send him home and don't bother to get caught up with him again. All you have been doing is having sex...this doesn't even seem to be about emotions, feelings and anything of substance. I'm almost sure he is lying about him not having sex in years He hurt you before and was a bum before...nothing has changed. He is currently cheating yet again, except you're his OW now. You deserve better. Kick him to the curb and run the other way. 2
Athena Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 Ok i was married to this man for seven years he got mixed up in drinking getting high and ephedrine pills by hand fulls. He was abusive then and had girls dancing on his lap in his partys as i raised his two babies and carried the third. I knew i had to get him away from the step father pulling him under before something real bad happen. I took the kids and left when he started going out at night staying gone and brothers girlfriend said she slept with him. He called me and said he loved me to come back, then the whole time he had a girlfriend well she told him that she was pregnant to keep him. Now thats been 14years ago. Well he came into my life again a year and a half ago, we have been sleeping with eachother and he swares she and he has not been sexual for years. Now, he has been living with me all week, goes and says at her house for weekend to see kids which are not given his last name nor is he on certificate. He said she will take the kids if he goes, shes abusive and i wouldnt want that. So he wo nt leave, ive got text and pictures anso on that would send her down, should i hurt her like she did me? I just dont want the children hurt. They know about me and came and stayed at my house, the oldest wants to live with me. What a challege, i so want her to hurt. No, it doesn't make you a bad person, but if you go ahead and make her hurt by being vengeful and hurting her with the texts and pictures, then that would make you a bad person.... exactly HOW would you 'hurt' her with the texts and pictures? To whom? If you want to hurt her publicly, then stop that. If you only wish to hurt her to the man you're with, then that is more understandable.... but stop and think, you are supposed to be a good example, for him, for HIS children (who love you too) and for even her. It's okay for you to take your man back from her, it's you bringing Karma to her, but you have to know where to draw the line, and going over into purely vindictive behavior Just Because You Can, is evil. A few things: you say she 'said she was pregnant' just to keep your husband, but it sounds like the kids ARE his? Are they? Whether they have his name, or not, is immaterial... are they his? Also, you may feel 'on top' for now, that you have him back, but don't forget who you are dealing with... it's only a matter of time before the creep does the same ole same ole to you. I hope you are ready for his abusive ways?
LadyElaine Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 I wouldn't have said this so explicitly but you asked. Yes, in my opinion. On many levels in many ways.
Athena Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 I wouldn't have said this so explicitly but you asked. Yes, in my opinion. On many levels in many ways. Where's the Thumbs Down option? 2
LadyElaine Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 Sorry but any kind of infidelity is bad. Trust me I could have cheated. Stay away from ex drug addicts and men living with someone else even part time. it'd not rocket science. 1
suki1 Posted September 5, 2012 Posted September 5, 2012 I think it's harsh, unsupportive and unhelpful to say you're a bad person for feeling the way you do. We all feel extremes of emotion from time to time, it doesn't mean we'll act in an extreme way. To be honest I think you're being brave to say what you're actually thinking. As to the guy - he doesn't sound like a very positive person to have in your life. Don't bother with him and don't bother with hurting her. The best revenge we can achieve is to live well and be happy. Figure out how to do that.
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