Ex Girlfriend text me

[Drumlegend]

So I will make this short. My ex girlfriend broke up with me about 2 months ago and we've had no contact for 1 month, I was a bit stalkers at first because she never explained why she didn't want to be with me. It was long distance I may add and we only saw each other two weekend a month. Anyway, she text me this evening telling me she was watching something and it reminded her of me. It was weird as I was thinking about the same thing earlier randomly. She wished me luck for my final year at uni. I replied thanking her and told her I had had the same feeling earlier in. She then told me she was watching something else we used to watch and she hopes I don't mind her texting me sometimes. I told her I wasn't happy about it as it was hurting me more and giving me false hope, she said sorry and she wanted to talk because she still thinks and cares about me and she broke up with me because she wants to put her time into things that make her happier. She said she didn't want to be single to mess around and said she is feeling very selfish atm and wants to focus on herself. I accepted that and told her that she shouldn't text me back as I'm moving on and she is making things worse.

 

Did I do the right thing and any idea why she text me?

 

I'm sorry about how muddled this is, I'm writing this on my phone.

[Chi townD]

Nah, you did fine. Sucks when they contact you when you least expect it or when you've started to heal and started to feel good about yourself.

 

Back to NC dude.

[Regrets58]

We will probably never quite know why they do it.Could be lots of

reasons.If it still upsets you to be in touch be firm and stay NC.

Went through all this myself.Ended up in months of breadcrumbs.

Nights out,still seeing her family,cooking me meals even a w/e away.

Never went anywhere and she is with someone else now lol!

Wish I had stayed NC since day one.

However things have settled down for me now and LC is tolerable,

well quite pleasant actually.

[Dblock10]

So I will make this short. My ex girlfriend broke up with me about 2 months ago and we've had no contact for 1 month, I was a bit stalkers at first because she never explained why she didn't want to be with me. It was long distance I may add and we only saw each other two weekend a month. Anyway, she text me this evening telling me she was watching something and it reminded her of me. It was weird as I was thinking about the same thing earlier randomly. She wished me luck for my final year at uni. I replied thanking her and told her I had had the same feeling earlier in. She then told me she was watching something else we used to watch and she hopes I don't mind her texting me sometimes. I told her I wasn't happy about it as it was hurting me more and giving me false hope, she said sorry and she wanted to talk because she still thinks and cares about me and she broke up with me because she wants to put her time into things that make her happier. She said she didn't want to be single to mess around and said she is feeling very selfish atm and wants to focus on herself. I accepted that and told her that she shouldn't text me back as I'm moving on and she is making things worse.

 

Did I do the right thing and any idea why she text me?

 

I'm sorry about how muddled this is, I'm writing this on my phone.

 

its totally up to you man, if you are being true to yourself when you told her those things then thats totally fine! so long as you are being true to your feelings and what you want, that is all that matters.

 

if you want to talk to her, do so. just never play games, just do what you feel is the right thing

[Drumlegend]

I do want her back because I miss her but she wants to do her own thing so I'm leaving her alone, it's not fair that she texts me because it just puts me back to square one. I want to heal. Maybe one day she will want me back but I'm not holding onto that hope anymore.