HumptyDumpty Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 So, well, need some help as this situation is messing me up a bit... I broke up with this guy in April this year, reason: a dealbreaker! We dated only 6 months but (I don' know how), it became clear that we couldn't have a longterm relationship since in 10 years I wanted marriage and children, he doesn't... Seems kinda stupid but I didn't see any other solution as to break it off, so that he can meet someone with the same goals and me too... And I was kinda moody as well- he like to take the mick' out of me but always the topics that should be avoided! Etc, there were some other small issues... So, break-up and several small NC that never lasted more than a week (longest ever was 2)! He likes to stay friends, I told several times I couldn't, that I was against the "friends with the ex" thing, so NC was mostly for myself.... After 4 weeks following the BU, we also met up, and well, I was sad and crying, missing him and what we had...but there came nothing from his part, he hated to see me crying and never indicated anything of getting back together. No hug, no nothing. So, after all the hopes, etc, I got the idea to just move on. Go out, meet some new guys. Thing is that I don't want a relationship or one-night things so I focused on myself and mostly on my problems which I had (sexual harassment from the landlord, had to move away, and so on)! So, thing is- he knows that I still loved him and would have loved to restart the relationship, he did nothing. We met up several times, he said it's only friendship, nothing more. Ok, I closed that chapter, moving on it is. However...there was never some huge NC for me to heal, always texting. I'm not sure I would get back together with him if he would offer it since there are still issues unsolved... Cut him out of my life seems impossible as well since he does some things for me to help and to prevent me to depress. Just had some NC for nonsense, 1 week, and he broke it, offering to see and help me, eating together as well...and I can't ignore him so I always fall back in this trap. We do get along perfectly, really, sometimes it feels as if we're still going out, without the physical part only... So it gets me confused... Is it because he's not dating anyone yet, to keep in contact? Some back burner only? Keeping me from moving on? Since when I don't respond, he gets a bit moody as well... Is it to feel less lonely? Guilt? Ego-boost? Or true feelings, like love but in some friendly way only? Or more? I admit that I can't properly move on! Sure, I'd be ready to date again since a simple hug is what I'm sincerely missing...but with this constant contact all day long with text messaging, it's kinda stopping me, him being constantly in the picture... Cut him completely out, well, I would feel bad about this since he's done nothing that bad either... I love the contact only that I'm still not ready even 4 months after the BU! I'd highly appreciate some advice, thoughts, anything on this, since I'm confused! :S Thanks for reading all this through! Here's a little bunny:
Theycallmeparis Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 I'm new tointhisnfirum and have a question as well as a response. What dies 'NC' stand for? As for the response, the dude is just toying with you. He is keeping you hooked as a back up
betterdeal Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 NC stands for No Contact. I recommend you change your phone number. That way you won't get any more texts from him and will be able to move on.
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