NYC-BigKat Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 Soooo sorry but I lost my cool last night on the date. Um...anyway I got a date with a girl from pof & it was terrible . We text last week for a few days & we meet at the train station. Um...I knew the date wasn't gonna be good when she kept asking me why I dont drive. I kept telling & telling her that I cant pass the road test. She says 'cause I'm a guy I should . Um...we went out for a subway sandwich. I'm trying to watch my weight I guess & then I try to make conversation with her but she ignores me with all the stupid texting so I got really really pissed & slapped the phone from her hand. She screamed & I say so sorry & I leave the store embarrassed. She texts me when I got home to see if I'm okay. I say yea. She says are u sure? I say yea & that's it. I feel really bad. Dont know what came over me .
kaylan Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 Sure what you did was a bit much, but she was super rude to you. Who the hell checks their phone during a date? Soooooo disrespectful. 1
fortyninethousand322 Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 Don't worry about it. It's not a big deal.
kaylan Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 And you live in NYC....people dont need to freaking drive there. Its a big waste of money if you live close to public transportation. Car insurance is a killer in a big city. The prices are super high...especially for guys in their 20s. Lets not even talk about gas prices. Screw this chick. I would have told her off and walked out on her for the phone thing. Be a man next time and tell a girl straight up when shes behaving badly. Dont lose your cool. Just be firm and stern. 3
Untouchable_Fire Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 Soooo sorry but I lost my cool last night on the date. Um...anyway I got a date with a girl from pof & it was terrible . We text last week for a few days & we meet at the train station. Um...I knew the date wasn't gonna be good when she kept asking me why I dont drive. I kept telling & telling her that I cant pass the road test. She says 'cause I'm a guy I should . Um...we went out for a subway sandwich. I'm trying to watch my weight I guess & then I try to make conversation with her but she ignores me with all the stupid texting so I got really really pissed & slapped the phone from her hand. She screamed & I say so sorry & I leave the store embarrassed. She texts me when I got home to see if I'm okay. I say yea. She says are u sure? I say yea & that's it. I feel really bad. Dont know what came over me . You could have chewed her butt verbally and been better off. You could have caused damage to her or to the cell phone. I would learn from that and not do it again. However, I also would not apologize to her. She is a prick and has no right to treat anybody in that fashion.
carhill Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 You're probably aware that is considered assault and battery, so take it as a lesson learned. Next time such happens, just calmly get up and walk away, wherever you are. Your presence is irrelevant to the person, as evidenced by them ignoring you, so go with that.. 4
Emilia Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 She is an idiot and she upset you. don't do anything like that again but in some ways I don't blame you OP, she was rather annoying. Once I told a date I would drown his mobile in his pint of beer if he checked his texts one more time. 1
tigressA Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 Knocking the phone out of her hand was way out of line. Just don't do that again. Learn how to deal with people (yes, even jerks) without going off like that. 5
ThaWholigan Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 Boundaries dude, say it with me: BOUNDARIES. Any time I have a date, I take out my phone and visibly put it on silent so she could see and suggest she should do the same. That way, she knew she would have my full attention, but that I would also be expecting hers. You probably shouldn't have lost your cool in that way (although I get the impression you are a little too emotional for your own good and need to sort that out), but you shouldn't tolerate disrespect. Don't worry about the date, chalk it up to experience and get another one. Hold your boundaries and KEEP YOUR COOL this time! 2
SmileFace Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 I would have excused myself to the bathroom. I would texted her "I know there is a better chance of you getting this since you are glued to your phone, but Bye!l and then would went home . Lol joking but that is pretty rude of her. 7
CptSaveAho Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 Knocking the phone out of her hand was way out of line. Just don't do that again. Learn how to deal with people (yes, even jerks) without going off like that. I disagree... knocking the phone out of her hand EARNED her respect. He subliminally set expectations that this behavior is not appropriate around him and look what happened. She checked up on him when he got home. He wasnt a pansey and sat there and took it, he stood up for himself. Next time dont apologize to her for setting expectations and boundaries or disciplining idiots for bad behavior
Hawaii50 Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 Thats too bad, you probably won't have another date for a very long time.. who does that- lmao. 2
CptSaveAho Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 Thats too bad, you probably won't have another date for a very long time.. who does that- lmao. I would put money down that he can text her tomorrow for a date and she will go. Ive done this before, he set boundaries and LEAD. Shes just an idiot and doesnt deserve to date him
amaysngrace Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 I disagree... knocking the phone out of her hand EARNED her respect. He subliminally set expectations that this behavior is not appropriate around him and look what happened. She checked up on him when he got home. He wasnt a pansey and sat there and took it, he stood up for himself. Next time dont apologize to her for setting expectations and boundaries or disciplining idiots for bad behavior You're saying she responds to violence? Sweet.
SmileFace Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 You're saying she responds to violence? Sweet. Sadly enough she did text asking him if he was ok. So... 4
fortyninethousand322 Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 I disagree... knocking the phone out of her hand EARNED her respect. He subliminally set expectations that this behavior is not appropriate around him and look what happened. She checked up on him when he got home. He wasnt a pansey and sat there and took it, he stood up for himself. Next time dont apologize to her for setting expectations and boundaries or disciplining idiots for bad behavior Damaging someone's personal property is not something a gentleman should do. Violence against person or property is wrong. But, given how she acted, I don't think anyone should shed any tears for her.
amaysngrace Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 Sadly enough she did text asking him if he was ok. So... ....yep
CptSaveAho Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 You're saying she responds to violence? Sweet. She texted him when he got home? ACTIONS...words She was testing him subconsciously... all women do these stupid things
prettylittlethings Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 Are you serious? It sounds like you have control issues. I can't believe so many people don't find this ridiculous. Just like I can't imagine being so rude as to be immersed in my phone on a first meeting with somebody, who in their right mind slaps the phone out of someone's hand they don't even know?
CptSaveAho Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 Damaging someone's personal property is not something a gentleman should do. Violence against person or property is wrong. But, given how she acted, I don't think anyone should shed any tears for her. oh shush, man up there was no violence. she didnt press charges
amaysngrace Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 She texted him when he got home? ACTIONS...words She was testing him subconsciously... all women do these stupid things Gotta love the mentality of people who say "all" to generalize... ..or not... 2
fortyninethousand322 Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 oh shush, man up there was no violence. she didnt press charges If I walk up to someone and punch him in the head, but he doesn't press charges, did violence occur? I'd say yes. Like I said though, I don't feel sorry for her. This sort of thing is bound to happen when you act like an ignoramus.
fortyninethousand322 Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 Are you serious? It sounds like you have control issues. I can't believe so many people don't find this ridiculous. Just like I can't imagine being so rude as to be immersed in my phone on a first meeting with somebody, who in their right mind slaps the phone out of someone's hand they don't even know? If he has control issues, he'll be a hit with the ladies soon enough. A little confidence added to his bravado here, and he'll be gold.
Hawaii50 Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 I would put money down that he can text her tomorrow for a date and she will go. Ive done this before, he set boundaries and LEAD. Shes just an idiot and doesnt deserve to date him Yeah you're right, maybe next time he'll make it up and take her to quiznos. he smacked the phone out of her hand. a childlike response to a childlike action. 5
Imajerk17 Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 Soooo sorry but I lost my cool last night on the date. Um...anyway I got a date with a girl from pof & it was terrible . We text last week for a few days & we meet at the train station. Um...I knew the date wasn't gonna be good when she kept asking me why I dont drive. I kept telling & telling her that I cant pass the road test. She says 'cause I'm a guy I should . Um...we went out for a subway sandwich. I'm trying to watch my weight I guess & then I try to make conversation with her but she ignores me with all the stupid texting so I got really really pissed & slapped the phone from her hand. She screamed & I say so sorry & I leave the store embarrassed. She texts me when I got home to see if I'm okay. I say yea. She says are u sure? I say yea & that's it. I feel really bad. Dont know what came over me . Well, what you did wasn't cool but it wasn't a huge deal, her phone wasn't damaged (she could text you after) and there is something comforting that you feel bad about it. Maybe you taught her a lesson too. Your anger at her texting during the date was entirely justified IMO. How would you handle something like this next time?
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