frederickkk Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 Together two years. She goes travelling 6 weeks with girl mate. Comes back, wants to move on. Last 18 months of relationship were ****. I put too much focus on a uni course, not enough on her. Ive spent past 3 weeks trying to change her mind. Doesn't want it. Im at a cross roads in life. She is more important than my career. I dont know what i actually want to do. Ive told her i will dedicate myself to her career. cant go back to uni in same area as her if she doesnt want it. could go travelling, or do something completely different. dont want to leave her behind. would be back in a year trying again. i know she has feelings for me, and loves me, but doesnt believe the relationship can be different. i have to make a decision about what im going to do with my life, but i want it sorted with her first. any advice?
Kilikina Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 If I've learned anything it's that you can't change someone's mind. If she has decided she wants out then that's what's going to happen. I'm sorry I know it hurts when someone doesn't feel the way you do but realistically do you want to be in a relationship with someone who you had to talk into it? You deserve to have someone be with you because it's what they truly want, no other reason. Maybe she will change her mind with time but you can't sit around and wait for that; some part of the relationship wasn't working for her and if you stand any chance of getting her back that needs to change. You can't change anything she says, does or feels but you can change you!! Work on you and making those changes you say you can make but make sure you do not just to get her back but because you truly want to change. In order for the relationship to continue or start again it needs to change and grow; accept that and learn to be okay with that and just focus on you. If she wants to come back it's only Gonna happen after changes have been made so make those changes and maybe in the process you'll realize you still want her and maybe you'll realize you don't and deserve more. Either way you're moving forward and growing.
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