aPpLe JuIcE Posted July 20, 2004 Posted July 20, 2004 My boyfriend won't go down. He says it don't do a thing for him. Is there anything I can do to change his mind?
guest Posted July 20, 2004 Posted July 20, 2004 shave it. give him strip tease and wave it in his face...that always does it for me!
cinnamonstix49 Posted July 20, 2004 Posted July 20, 2004 Originally posted by aPpLe JuIcE My boyfriend won't go down. He says it don't do a thing for him. Is there anything I can do to change his mind? Let him know it isn't always all about him.
Happiness5 Posted July 20, 2004 Posted July 20, 2004 Some guys just don't like doing that - although I've never personally met any. Do you have good personal hygeine? Honestly I prefer a man using his hands over sticking his head between my legs. Men can't ever seem to get oral sex right anyway so don't feel like you're missing out on much!
argggg Posted July 20, 2004 Posted July 20, 2004 Oh, I can totally relay. My current bf does not like to give oral, which by the way is my favorite thing. It took him over one year to admit that he did not like it...there was always a lame excuse on why he did not do it well. Finally, I force it out of him, and the amazing thing, for a guy who enjoys bj of course, he actually said that he did not get anything out of it. Can you believe it? I was apalled. But after a long time, most of the time, I have made peace with the fact that we are always going to be incompatible, and yes, as painful as it is, he is selfish in bed, and even worse, I cannot change that. I have tried every way possible, and at the end, he is not into it, so when he does it, I do not enjoy it. Most of us are not good at things we do not like at all, and sex is supposed to be enjoyable, how can I possibly enjoy something when I know he is counting seconds until I reach orgasm, for that, I rather use my very handy right hand! Now, I have made peace with this, and most days while I cannot possibly say it does make mad, I have reached the conclusion that he is a great guy and nothing is perfect, but I have dealt with reality. I do not lie to myself that he will change and suddenly cannot get enough it. I think you can convience him to do in a few times a year- like your bday, if you can deal with that, that is fine, but just don't be in denial- he is selfish in bed, and you will most likely experience that through your relationship with him. ...at least that is my opinion- I would love to hear that there is actual hope-
UCFKevin Posted July 20, 2004 Posted July 20, 2004 Tell him it ain't exactly peaches and cream when you go down on him.
sami Posted July 20, 2004 Posted July 20, 2004 Some guys had negative past experiences. They need to experience and go through something different. It is unfortunate that some girls take things forgranted and they assume that every guy will fly or die for the joy of taking a ride downtown. It is a terrible experience for some though they wouldn't talk or make much out of it. they prefer instead to live with it like any other challenge in their way. Many girls just don't know that. There are many factors contributing to such negativity.
dudesomewhere Posted July 20, 2004 Posted July 20, 2004 personally I luv it. But only if she has great hygiene...like me . Some guys don't like it, think that part is ugly...and frankly it is on some women...but thank goodness the ones I've been with [FEW] look pretty down there. So with my tally of 4...my first, to take away my virginity, it was nice but not the best...good hygiene though. My second who I thought was a gf, had horrible hygiene. No wonder she didn't like me going down there, and I sort of guessed that to be why. Man was that one horrible...and when I did I tried to grin and bear it so to speak. Oy! I can still remember my revulsion. My 3rd was a one nighter and I was not about to go down south. My 4th...now she was awesome. Being a guy who likes it, and compounded by the fact that she was so pretty down there AND she had the perfect hygiene. Good god I'd be there all night! . I actually injured my tongue a bit...you know that skin thing that anchors the tongue...doing it for so long and loving it.
Butterfly_Queen Posted July 20, 2004 Posted July 20, 2004 Maybe try to persuade him into experimenting with some food, while doing that. Whip cream, stawberries, any kind of fruit. Chocolate etc, things like that. Maybe that will ease him into it. Make sort of a food tasting game out of it.
faux Posted July 21, 2004 Posted July 21, 2004 Originally posted by Butterfly_Queen Maybe try to persuade him into experimenting with some food, while doing that. Whip cream, stawberries, any kind of fruit. Chocolate etc, things like that. Maybe that will ease him into it. Make sort of a food tasting game out of it. No. Do not put any food down there. I may not be a woman, but I am fairly certain that is a big hygiene no-no, and can cause quite a bit of icky problems. Originally posted by Happiness5 ...Men can't ever seem to get oral sex right anyway so don't feel like you're missing out on much! REEEEEAAAAALLLLY now. I've never had any problems it seems, unless of course women can fake contractions and bodily shaking/spasms of pleasure for prolonged periods of time. I don't understand why a man would not want to perform oral sex on a girl. It definitely does something for me! When I see a woman writhing in sheer pleasure, telling me how wonderful it feels, her body shuddering uncontrollably, while she moans and screams and grips the sheets in her clenched fists, I feel so GRRREAT I could sell Frosted Flakes for a living. Sometimes a woman will taste stronger than other times, and yes, sometimes when something is "wrong" down there it isn't pleasant at all. For the most part it's quite enjoyable for me to do, and I love to do it.
ziggue Posted July 21, 2004 Posted July 21, 2004 Maybe his never done it before and doesn't have much experience in that kind of area. Or maybe he doesn't know that you want him to go down there. . .
dyermaker Posted July 21, 2004 Posted July 21, 2004 Originally posted by UCFKevin Tell him it ain't exactly peaches and cream when you go down on him. See you in hell.
Bart_Weisser Posted July 21, 2004 Posted July 21, 2004 I am pretty hygenic. I will not anyone go down on me when I am not "fresh", so to speak, or when the lady uses her teeth (I am uncut so this feels really painful). Likewise when it comes to me going down on women. I simply will not have incentive to go down if she does not clean her self before. Shaving also helps, really. I have a girl who's nether regions is like a fu-man-chu, and doesn't take her shower until after the act. You can guess I spent all of my time smooching her instead so that she doesn't have an excuse to go down. BW.
Adunaphel Posted July 21, 2004 Posted July 21, 2004 Has your bf ever tried going down on you? If not ask him to try *just once* and see if he really does not like it at all.... promise him that if he feels unconfortable with it he can stop immediately and you won't be offended. If he has not moral problems, I guess trying won't hurt him. Has he ever given oral sex to any other girl? is it possible that he had an unpleasant experience? If he is unconfortble at the idea of mouth/genitals contact, suggest that he puts some cellophane between.
Mr Spock Posted July 21, 2004 Posted July 21, 2004 My ex, whom I was with for a total of 4 years performed that activity a total of 2 times. He had reasons, that I won't share with the board, but you could call it a prior "bad experience". If I was with a man that had excellent oral skills and THEN stopped doing it I might miss it, but as long as he pays special attention to what he's doing with his hands it's something I can deal with. I personally enjoy performing-simply for the reason I feel it's a HUGE turn on watching others love what you're doing to them. Some people just have mental blocks when it comes to giving or receiving pleasure.
HoldOn Posted July 21, 2004 Posted July 21, 2004 I personally don't like a guy going downtown. I feel uncomfortable and I worry about how it smells and tastes. Also, I don't need to to be happy. Anyway, maybe he is just scared he'll do it wrong or he doesn't know what to do or how to do it...
aPpLe JuIcE Posted July 21, 2004 Posted July 21, 2004 First let me say that my hygeine in that area is very good. I would never let a man down there if it wasn't. I don't have an overgrown bush. It's partially shaved and then trimmed very short. He's done that for me only a few times and it shows b/c he wasn't really into it. It had been like 6 months since he had so I asked him why and that's when I he told me he didn't really like to and that it didn't do anything for him. I'm a nurse so as tempting as the whole fruit/chocolate suggestion is...I know better...
The_Analyzer Posted July 21, 2004 Posted July 21, 2004 Is there anything else he is not really into? Or is just going downtown?
corythosaurus Posted July 22, 2004 Posted July 22, 2004 Pleasing you should do it for him. Anything short of that screams of a self-centered individual. Everyone has bad experiences, everyone has things they don't like or enjoy as much as other things, but bringing pleasure to your partner should be priority number one. I love going "downtown"! I can go downtown everyday, even twice a day maybe more. Downtown is comforting and familiar; and when I go downtown, I get so much in return. When I go downtown, it can be a quick trip, or an all day adventure. Sometimes I try to see how quick I can make my trip downtown, and other times I want to see how long I can stay dowtown before returning home. Going downtown makes my lady excited and giddy. Come on people, let's all go downtown.
HoldOn Posted July 22, 2004 Posted July 22, 2004 Also, I don't need to to be happy. I meant to say I don't need IT to be happy.
aPpLe JuIcE Posted July 22, 2004 Posted July 22, 2004 Originally posted by The_Analyzer Is there anything else he is not really into? Or is just going downtown? He's up for anything else I suggest...except this.
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